Are there any success stories from betrayers who didn't chose to end the affair, but who had it ended for them by the OP chosing a different path? My H's OW ended their relationship to continue in her marriage ... my H has not really come to terms with that, and I worry constantly that she will change her mind and he will leave me for her again ...even though we are working to rebuild our marriage ... he has said the feelings for her and the fact that she touches a place no-one else has ever come close to - a place that makes him feel whole and really himself for the only time in his life, would probably lead him to making that decision again, no matter how good things are with us. (he moved out last year hoping she would move in with him ... she wavered for a long time but didn't want to cause her H or daughter pain, so, although feeling so strongly for him, loving him in the same way my H loves her, she chose not to leave - I know this to be true as I have spoken openly with her, but wonder what would happen if she strikes a rough patch). <P>Hearing some success stories would help me a lot at the moment.

sosad, I wanted to reply even though I can't offer great advice. I just see similarities in our stories.<P>My H is involved in an intense EA with a woman from work.. I don't actually know how long. He also says they are connected and he is not connected to me and the kids.<P>My H moved out 8 weeks ago. THe OP is still with her H. (at least as of last week) He may be waiting for her move I'm not sure. Although the OP's H tells me she keeps threatening to divorce but my H is not inviting her to move in.<P>Now, I have to tell you it all seems so unrealistic and unhealthy to me, but I will have a really hard time living with the thought that he thinks of her this way. I don[t know if I can do it. I feel that I deserve better and so do my kids. I guess what keeps me going is the Harley's fantasy principle. That after some time in reality that relationship becomes like every other relationship........Anyway, I am interested in what responses you get.