I just finished reading what you wrote to toothbrush.... about the safe place...etc.... my H wants us to get along........ I truly think he wants to divorde...(please search and read my posts about the affair and OP)<BR>I want to know this... did your H say things like I never have had feelings for you.... or like this before. I love you but I'm not in love with you.... and then tell ya what was wrong with you.... my H never told me he was unhappy with me until the OP came along....... I feel like I'm losing hope... my H is not a talker and likes quiet evenings....... He is reading SAA and I've set up a counseling session with MB... I would like to get him to talk to a counselor... but hhe really doesn't like it... feels the counselors have a great job... <P>I really need some help here....Thanks...s<P>