Well, as you know from my first post, I was thinking of putting letters in H's car when I dropped $ off for him. The first one was yesterday, the day I posted about it. It was very light hearted, and since it was the first one I briefly restated my hope for time to be on our side. Then I just wrote about household news. Very light and pleasant. <P>OW called me last night, yelling and carrying on. She told me not to write to him anymore, that she found it in the car (after he read it) when they went out after work and that she threw it out the window. She said she will throw any letter she finds out the window just like she did with "the bag of old love letters she found." (Several weeks ago I put a whole bunch of our sentimental stuff in his car-- He had said he wants a divorce "I think" and I was so upset) He had kept the bag of letters tucked behind the seat for the past 2 weeks, I guess until she found them and tossed them out.<P>Anyway, I was very calm on the phone, "Does Charlie need to talk to me right now?" SHe said he has nothing to say to you, and i replied, "Well, if he needs to talk put him on, if not I do not need to talk to you" and I hung up. SHe called back yelling not to ever call her house for anything again, and I hung up again. SHe called 2 more times but I didn't pick up. <P>I don't know if H heard this or what, but he did not call today. <P>I was upset, but now I am ok. What do you think about this?

I think that she feels insecure in her relationship and she might sense that your H misses you<P>Good Luck<P>Sam

I think she does not like wearing the shoes that she had you wearing and that you are a threat to her. I think you have put a touch of fear in her as she no doubt read the box of letters before tossing them.

onceloved,<P>You may think I'm jumping the gun and being paranoid here...<P>...but get yourself a tape recorder and record your conversation with the OW...<P>It could save you quite a bit of heartache down the road.<P> <P>Jim

Onceloved,<P>I agree with NSR about recording her calls, just remember to try to stay nice and calm when you talk to her, let her be a screaming shrew with you, with h and anyone else. You be the nice calm, reasonable one.<P>And if you want to write hubby letters, then do so ! I'm sure he can speak for himself, she has no right to tell you that you can't write him.<P>Keep her off balance, let h see her being a , well a , hmmmm one of those things.<P>Keep your head, sounds like you are getting to her. Good job !<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

I know this may sound wierd, but her calling you sounds like a good thing for YOU! She is showing that you are a threat to her. If she continues in this fashion H will most assuredly get tired of this and start to see the fantasy woman image come to an end. I also agree about tape recording any phone calls with her. You might want to also get the caller ID box and have your number blocked so that the ONLY way someone can get through is if they UNBLOCK their phone, that way you will always know who is calling before you pick up the phone. Just be as pleasant as punch and continue writing to YOUR husband. Your H has a voice and he obviously kept the letters you sent for a reason until she found them. If he ever does say something to you in a negative way, I would put money on it that OW made him do it. Don't EVER get into a screaming match with her or him! ALWAYS be calm and just politely hang up without giving her any clue of how you feel or any actions that you have or will have.