How about the Infidelity Amusement Park.<P>Admission: Free to all who have suffered.<BR>Rides: You make them up. Tell your story based on the kind of ride you've been on. <P>My ride.<P>The Country Music Merry-Go-Round<P>You get into a pick up and start your trip, listening to some wonderful country love songs. You get married, have kids, get a dog, get a house and everything is fine. Just when you think things are going great, the redneck carney slams the ride into reverse, the music starts playing backwards and you lose your house, your dog, your kids, your spouse, and your pickup.<P>Get creative people. Have some fun with this. Some of you may have seen a thread like this on the DB site and they got 50+ posts. I know we can do better. <P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

Some kind of virtual reality arcade. Haven't worked out the details. I'll come back and edit when I get more time.

Ok, I'll give this a try too. <P>I got on the "Relationship Swings"... you know, you sit in a swing and it goes around and around.<P>At first you are close together and the ride is pleasent.... circles of love.<P>As the ride starts going faster, you start pulling appart, then the ride slows a little, you come closer together. Then it speeds up again... faster and faster, and the faster it goes, the further appart you get.... you scream to try to get someone to stop the ride so you can slow down again and be close and make the circles of love again.<P>Unfortunately, the chains holding our swings in place were sabatoged. They couldn't withstand the forces, they broke and sent us flying off in opposit directions. (I think X's swing is somewhere near Mars by now.... and still going).<P>Hey, who runs this carnival anyway??? Maybe we could have a class action suit! <P>Thougths & Prayers to all,<BR>Butterfly<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Sparkydog: I get sick on rides as you know so I am not able to participate. I read your other post and couldn't help but feel pain for both of you. I have been and a little still where Cat is at now and it has been stressful. My spouse has experienced what you are going through and it hurts me still to remember the look on his face when I told him all those hurtful things. Just yesterday, I thought of the OM and prayed to God to get him out of my head. I don't want those feelings anymore. I don't like feeling sad because I am always thinking of him and knowing that he is not mine to have. In regards to happiness, I can only make myself happy. If I had ended up with the OM, knowing my mental state, I probably would have been filled with guilt and tried to cheat on the OM with my ex because I still loved my spouse. Crazy as it sounds but I have loved both since high school, but I only chose one and I need to stick with that decision. Don't take this the wrong way, but there were times when I wished a woman could have 2 spouses. Then I would rethink my wish and decided more money would be a better wish. I didn't like the idea of double the laundry or cooking details not to mention double the kids. <BR>I don't know what her reasonings are or exactly how she feels in either relationship now and I would never place judgement, blame, criticism or any negative remark toward her or you. You both have been such a help to me that I hate to see either of you hurting. All I can offer is plenty of hugs and prayers to you both.<BR>My question to you is: Do you need to go to this party? Would she agree to not go? I have been faced with this myself. Even though my spouse doesn't know the OM, functions that include the OM, I won't even attend. I tell my spouse that I am too tired or have to much to do or I would rather him and I go have dinner or a movie than go to a party. I usually send the person(s) the party is for a gift by mail or visit them later.<BR>I am not feeling to well right now. I rode to work today and froze this morning. They are talking 70(s) by this afternoon. Plus, I had lunch with a prospective employee yesterday and he said something that upset me. He referred to the mentally ill as "loonies" and that upset me very much. I am not a looney and am as human as anyone else. I better stop because I will start weeping and I am at work. I wish I would have said something to him, but I was afraid I would be stigmatized by my co-workers. What a coward I am. <BR>At some point take a break from the ride and take care of your mental and physical health. That goes for Cat too! I have learned that if I do something nice for myself(like a massage, visit the zoo, take myself to eat/movie), I somehow feel alittle better with me. My love and prayers to you and Cat.<BR>

I've been walking around the "House of Glass" for years.<BR>You know the one where there is a maze of glass. I'm trying to find my way through and this darn glass is soundproof. People can see me trapped in the maze but when I call for help they can't hear me. <BR>Every once in a while I stumble onto the mirrors. You know the ones! Every mirror shows a different perception. I have no idea what is real.<BR>Someone get me OUT!