Hi Gang,<P>I have a "meeting" scheduled for Friday afternoon with my W Val. The purpose is to discuss the road we should travel regarding D vs reconsiliation.<P>Brief update: I am still in Plan B. Only one phone contact originating from me this year concerning her living arrangements. Her OM told me she had moved in with him. Couldn't let that go by. I have sent nice cards reiterating my love for her. I have also received some nice notes from her. Yes, Jim the ice cream one. Maybe CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM! <P>She called me Monday to say that she hasn't heard from me for awhile and what was up? I asked if she got the documents to finalize the D. Yep, she has had them for a week and told me she doesn't know what to do with them. Being stuck on stupid, I thought to myself, Just sign them and mail them to my lawyer and in 30 days if will be all over but the crying. Later I figured out she meant she didn't know whether to sign them or not. Can you say "Medic is a jerk?" <P>So, I ask all of you to help me on Friday. A prayer or kind thought would be so appreciated.<P>Any suggestions would also be great. I miss and love my "Bunches"<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Tim<P>PS I'm glad that the other thread has finally been put to rest. It was not my intention to stir the pot.<P>If you are interested in seeing my clan or if you wonder what the village idiot looks like E me at Moose7771@AOL.COM. I just put together a web page. Some of you have seen it.

I will be thinking of you all day tomorrow. I hope "it" will go well with you and Val.<P>Think positive thoughts!!!!!!!!

Medic: Sounds like this is your chance! How about:<BR>1.Tell her that you want to stay together, and what would it take from you to make that happen?<BR>2.I have read a lot of your previous posts and it sounds to me like she wants to feel as though she is the most important thing to you, and that you can be trusted, i.e. if she comes back will you keep up the good behavior.<P>Our counselor told my husband and I that if he gave 100% to me first, that he would get back 200%, and that was true. Once I could trust that he was really and truly committed to the marriage and me, it enabled me to break down walls and give it all and more back. <P>Go for it!<BR>

Tim,<P>Lots of prayers coming your way! <P>Mitzi<P>Good luck!

Medic<BR>Sending all kinds of good vibes your way with the prayers!<BR>I have a really good feeling about this one! <BR>

Hi Tim,<P>Mostly lurk these days, but saw this and had to respond.<P>Prayers and thoughts are a'comin'!<P>I pray that God give you the words and the patience and the strength you need to get through your time with Val.<P>It sounds to me like she is still very confused, and still not sure if divorce is the answer.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl<P>PS- I'm e-mailing you. I've never seen a zippy before- LOL

I'm praying for you and "bunches"... <P>This must be the first reply to you...<BR>...where I don't have to say... don't do it... or do do it... <P>You know what to say...<BR>... reiterate the "love letter" aspect of a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A> letter!<P>...it's up to Val...<BR>...only she can come out of the fog.<P> ... I'm praying for that fog to lift!<P> <P>Jim

What they said....<P>Will pray for you and yours tomorrow.<P>Beth

prayers, hugs and lots of positive energy for you medic. <BR>Pay attention!!!

MEDIC238 -- Thoughts and prayers for you both.<P>God Bless

Prayers and hugs coming your way. Take some deep breaths and you will be find just let her know you love her and still care about her.<BR>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{TIM}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Tim, I don’t post as much as I used to, but you know you are in my prayers you lucky guy you!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

HI Medic,<BR> Long time!! This sounds good to me GOOD LUCK & PRAYERS FRANK

Father, I just pray that you will be present and help a bridge to be built between Tim and Val, and Lord, I know you hate divorce, so I pray that you will help Tim and Val to be in a place in their lives that pleases you. IJN, AMEN<P>

Hey Gang,<P>Thanks to all. Well this is it. Time to go. Man, I'm as nervous as a schoolgirl. I hope I will be able to post good news after our chat.<P>Thanks again, friends.<P>Tim

Zippy,<P>You've got BOTH!!! Good luck!!!!!<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Hi Medic -<P>Oh, I'm late here, too!! <P>That's OK - saying prayers and sending the white light to you and Val.....<P>Another Amen to TNT's prayer!!<P>Fill us all in when you get home!!!<P>Love and Hugs,<P>Sheba<P>PS - It's good to stir the pot every once in a while!!!! Keeps us on our toes!!!