Hi,<P>I lost my AOL for about a week and have been going crazy. We had a court date on Monday the 10th. I was instructed by my attorney that I didn't have to go. STBX showed up though. <P>Things went ok.<P>STBX has a contempt hearing on May 11th for not paying child support....utilities.....not selling the Mustang<P>But.....the judge did say that she will be going along with the recommendation of the custody evaluator.<P>My attorney told her that I was willing to go in for a psycho evaluation. She said that if I did and everything came back fine...that she would reconsider. Well it cost 3,000.00......but my Grandma sent me the money and they will be setting it up soon.<P>Wish me luck.....I hope they don't think I am mental.<P>I missed all of you guys.<P>PS The judge yelled at my H two times because he was not allowed to speak and he couldn't keep his mouth shut. My attorney said that he thinks the momentum is starting to shift my way and that his attorney and my stbx left pretty upset. Told me to "protect" myself because my stbx seemed very mad and that he might do something to me.<P>The stalking is getting worse. Now he has people driving by the house and calling him. They were pretty blatant last night. Sat right next to my house and were trying to look in.....moved behind the house.....same thing. But they stay in their car...so my Mom didn't call the police.<P>I will try and catch up on everyone this week-end.<P>Missed ya,<BR>Nancy<P><BR>

Dear Nancy<P>You just keep hanging in there, guard your mind and heart and keep it in the Lord's hands. <P>That is all you need now is to be accused of being paranoid.<P>My X had someone follow me, and him and his OW wife (who was a cop) and his sister all broke into my house on many occasions taking mail, cards from my boyfriend, keeping track of everything I did. We had neighbors who wrote affidavits watching them in my house while I was gone. I reported it to the police, but, of course the reports were never filed nor found. <P>It was brought up in the custody trial. The child psychologist said that it was "normal" behavior for a non-custodial parent to stalk and harrass a custodial parent - when they are concerned about the "welfare" of their child. <P>No abuse was proven, or discovered by the child psychologist - only "allegations" of abuse by X husband. <P>You just carry on in your life the way you should because of who you are, and do not react to any oblivious stalking and monitoring by X husband. You do have a restraining order, right? And - if he violates this he has proven your case for you.<P>You hang in there. <P>Lord heavenly Father, I pray for Nancy and her children, her attorney and the judge, that they would have favor and wisdom, in Jesus Name, Amen.<P>

{{{{{{{{{{Nancy}}}}}}}}},<P>We all missed you... <P>Welcome back!<P> <P>Jim

Hi Nancy,<P>Glad to hear that the judge is willing to reconsider. Hang in there as it sounds like the judge got to see a little of your h's true colors. My final hearing is in a week and I hope my H shows his true colors too <P>Take care.<P>Tulip

Nancy,<P>I will be thinking of you and praying for you! I haven't been around much myself lately. My life has been incredibly BUSY! Anyway, I hope things start going your way because you certainly deserve it! Hang in there!!!!<P>Woozy

Nancy,<P>Your in my prayers! I hope it all goes well. hang in there, you can do this!!!!<P>Renee

Hey Girl! <P>Good to see you back. I've really been thinking about you and your situation. Just remember, "The truth will set you free". You keep your chin up and stay as positive as possible. I can't believe your stbx can harrass you like that but he gets custody of the kids. Sounds like he is the unstable one. You take care of you and stay strong. Those kids need you right now. I will say a special prayer for you. Let me know how you are doing. I'm so glad the judge will be willing to reconsider. <BR><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com

Nancy,<P>Ah, do I detect a little fight in the tone of your posts?? I was starting to worry that you were going to give up. <BR>I'm glad your lawyer is on the ball with this. I think it won't be long before your H starts to self destruct. Hang on just a little longer!!<P>Prayers,<BR>Mitzi

Ok......your right Mitzi.....I have sat back long enough....I have endured far more than I ever had too.....Now I am fighting. I am still alittle in the "fog" on exactly how you fight......I have been controlled and manipulated for so long that I hope I can remember...but I think it is coming back.<P>Thank you for all of your prayers.....Maybe God has been listening.<P>Now that I have a lawyer who knows how to fight I have noticed a change in him (stbx), he actually leaves me alone...well sort of.<P>But I think that he is maybe getting scared....because before I just sat back and let him control me.<P>My new attorney is a little harsh...a little bit loud and somewhat obnoxious...but it must be working.<P>I need to go get my taxes done.....I don't know the laws...so I don't know if I can file married...but seperatley or do I have to file jointly with him, who claims the girls etc.? My attorney wasn't in on Friday so I didn't get an answer. So I am going to get everything ready today...so I will be ready.<P>Nancy