Can saying "I love you" everyday to your spouse be considered too much?<P>this of course means the couple show they love each other as well as saying the words

bijzonder,<P>It depends...<P>If I said to my W... it would be the ultimate insult... just one more thing to hurt her fantasy world!<P>You have to make the judgement...<P>You have to decide when/if it becomes a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Buster</A>.<P> <P>Jim

Bij<P>I tell my W every chance I get that I love her. I tell her in email, at the end of phone conversations and in person. I write her love notes about ever 7 days. She tells me that I shouldn't do it or that I do not have to do these things but she has yet to tell me not to. I continue to tell her despite the fact that she is deeply in love with OM. I think I might be making some headway of depositing love units. She recently said yes to us going to dinner and a movie. Telling and showing I love her is about all I have since she has moved out.<P>Conversation, affection and admiration are three of her emotional needs and telling her or showing her that I love her fits in one way or another all three of those needs.<P>After deciding what your S emotional needs are I would tell and show your spouse in every way that you can until she/he very aggressively tells you not to. You have to decide when your S has had too much.<P>Please remember your spouse may not respond at all or that if there is a response you might consider it to be very cold. If you read this site and SAA you will find that responses should not be expected. No response, a cold response, or a positive response is OK. Keep that in mind and continue to do it.<P>J W

Depends on your recovery status. If there isn't one then i woudn't be saying anything of the sort. it may push the S away.<P>Even though I know my H loves me, sometimes when he tells me he loves me, it makes me feel SOOO guilty. <P>Your call, you know your spouse best....<BR>mercy

Hmm, yet another thread that caught my attention.<BR>When I finally gave in to my feelings for my soon to be hubby, I made him promise to tell me he loved me everyday for the rest of our lives. And he has done just that!<BR>Now for the kicker, as our relationship is on the rocks, his words are not well received by me.<BR>I guess what i am trying to get at is ask your spouse how he/she feels about it. If saying it everytime you talk on the phone, leave the house, go to bed is too much, then just say it once a day or once a week, but remember to say it.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love & Light,<BR>Pep1024