A little over a year ago, I met a wonderful man online. He had told me to call him and I was kind of skeptical at first, but I decided to anyway. We talked for about half an hour and we talked every single day since then. He told me that he wasn't with anyone and that he didn't have children. About 5 months after trading e-mails, instant messages, and phone calls, he decided not to talk to me anymore. Of course, I was devastated and kept asking him why and if it was something I said. He said that I didn't do anything and he gave me no explanation after that. I let it go, but when I saw him online 3 months after that day, I asked him again why he all of a sudden just stopped talking to me, and he gave me a good reason: he was married and had a kid. I couldn't believe what he was telling me. And he kept telling me that he was sorry that he didn't tell me sooner and that he was seperated at the time when he met me and had "fallen in love" with me and he didn't have the heart to tell me that he was married. I let it go and I had an "I don't care" attitude. We've been talking 7 months since that day and still continuing. He keeps telling me that he loves me and that he wish he wasn't married. I don't want to be a "home-wrecker", but I don't want to let go of this wonderful man in my life. He lifts my spirits that not even my own family (meaning parents and siblings, I'm not married) has. Should I just let him go, or should I continue and see how far this will go? <p>[This message has been edited by BTSgrBear (edited April 17, 2000).]

Have you ever actually met this guy? If not, you are basing your future on a man you have never met, on a *very* impersonal medium, not to mention that he lied to you for how long? Doesn't sound like a mtach made in heaven to me.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by BTSgrBear:<BR><B>A little over a year ago, I met a wonderful man online. He had told me to call him and I was kind of skeptical at first, but I decided to anyway. We talked for about half an hour and we talked every single day since then. He told me that he wasn't with anyone and that he didn't have children. About 5 months after trading e-mails, instant messages, and phone calls, he decided not to talk to me anymore. Of course, I was devastated and kept asking him why and if it was something I said. He said that I didn't do anything and he gave me no explanation after that. I let it go, but when I saw him online 3 months after that day, I asked him again why he all of a sudden just stopped talking to me, and he gave me a good reason: he was married and had a kid. I couldn't believe what he was telling me. And he kept telling me that he was sorry that he didn't tell me sooner and that he was seperated at the time when he met me and had "fallen in love" with me and he didn't have the heart to tell me that he was married. I let it go and I had an "I don't care" attitude. We've been talking 7 months since that day and still continuing. He keeps telling me that he loves me and that he wish he wasn't married. I don't want to be a "home-wrecker", but I don't want to let go of this wonderful man in my life. He lifts my spirits that not even my own family has. Should I just let him go, or should I continue and see how far this will go? </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

BTSgrBear<P><BR>You did not say that you were married, but because you mentioned you family I will assume that you are. Your situation is much like my own. My W met a man over the Internet and in 2 months after meeting him left home. I cannot tell you about how bad she has hurt me and my D. We both are extremely hurt and I do not believe there is anything that a spouse could do that is more cruel than what she and you are doing. You have to imagine what's going on with his W and kid. They have to know that something is wrong and when they find out as when your H finds out then they are going to feel as bad as I feel and you then are going to feel incredible guilt. <BR>Stop what you are doing before it goes farther and read this site to try to fix your marriage. If after considerable time, counseling and effort your marriage cannot be fixed (and you will find out by reading this web site and the books that almost all marriages can be saved) then try for a relationship with someone who has not lied to you and told or led you to believe that they were not married.<P>I hope and pray you will think about this before many innocent people get hurt. Remember almost all affairs emotional or physical die because they are based on lies and deceit.<P>My hopes and prayers for you!!!<P>J W.

He lied to you everyday for 5 months and now you wonder if it’s okay to keep talking with him? You already know the answer.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>