this is my last post to this website. A word of caution to all that are using this site for guidance for marriage restoration. Be very cautious of the steps that you take and the lengths that you may go to to save your marriage. This sights preoccupation with infidelity and distrust of spouse should be examined very carefully. Infidelity to a sacremental marriage is the work of evil and Satan. Remember that as GOD is near so is Satan. He is looking waiting for your weakness and vulnerability to set in and he will invade your spirit. I urge all persons engaged in a troubled marriage to look to GOD for understanding, discipline and hope. Heal yourself and you will begin to heal your marriage. Be true to yourself and your heart and head. Fill the Love bank with yourself and it will be returned to you tenfold. Do not focus on infidelity, jealousy and mistrust. Those are tools of evil and the will destroy the very thing to seek to build. I ask you to be careful and consider all your actions in the light of our Lord Jesus Christ. Bring peace to your heart and it will be filled with LOVE. Thank you and good luck. Thanks to the last poster that I read and took seriously. You shall remain anonymous and I am indebted to you. You saved my dignity and hopefully have spare my precious wife from further defilement.

Hi John -<P>Ok - you can't leave yet, because I want to know why you are upset...<P>What has happened?<P>I went back and read all your threads and posts and don't know exactly why you are leaving.<P>There are alot of people here trying to figure things out....just like you are.<BR>There are many routes taken to do that - just as there are many different circumstances and personalities in the mix.<P>Infidelity is unfortunately all too common amongst us nowadays. That is why you see such a high concentration of pain, venting and discussion of the subject.....believe me - if I didn't have to be living it: I certainly wouldn't be discussing it!!!!<P>What has been happening with counseling - is it still helping your wife open up more and more?<P>Give an update on your thoughts and situation. <P>Not everyone is gloom and doom!!! WE are trying to find ourselves, our spouses and our paths through the darkness....I understand your feelings, but I feel that helping by adding some positivity to the boards rather than reacting to the negativity is a better solution.<P>Wouldn't you agree?<P>BIG HUGS, Prayers and Strength to you and your wife,<P>Sheba