Don't continue any relationship with the ow.....if you absolutely can't tell your wife the truth right now, come up with a reason to end the friendship, but end it. <P>And while you are doing that, really look at the situation and assess the risk of your wife finding out from someone else. Weigh which would be worse, telling her yourself, or her finding out from the ow or another person. You don't know if she has told or not.....anything is possible.<P>Surely there is some sort of marriage therapy available in England. I can't believe that it is non-existent. I encourage you to search it out and get there ASAP. There is a wonderful book called Torn Asunder by Dave Carder that I also highly recommend.<P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31<P>