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I'm so angry! H spent the day at home, but not speaking unless spoken too and doing his own thing. We were sitting watching TV when he dissappeared and I found him in bed. I asked if he was OK and he said he was just tired. I asked if he couldn't tell me he was going to bed. OK a little LB, but I am so mad. I think I desearve a little more respect than that, I should tell him how I feel without LB right? <BR> What can I say? It hurts me that you think so little of me you will not even speak to me? I would like to say goodnight? <BR> Maybe his way of avoiding a goodnight kiss. I want to scream!!!!<BR>Lora
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Lora,<P>You're right, he was rude....but, I won't judge him too harshly bc I've been there, done that too....I know my W and I are not dealing with an EA....<P>But, sometimes, I'm so emotionally exhausted from the interaction between she and I that I have nothing else to give....and for awhile, a kiss was more than I could handle.<P>Not an excuse....just the way I felt....<P>My counselor busted my chops today....he said I need to light the fires of desire in my heart for my W....O.K. he's right, but at this time, I'm still getting used to the idea that my W will need lots of support for a long time and that I can expect nothing in return....<P>I feel for you, bc I can see the look of hurt that my W gets when I'm not affectionate.<P>I'll tie some knots for you....<P>Hang in There!!!
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Nowhereman, LOL I was posting on your thread as you were posting on mine. Thanks for the response. Are you Pacific time Zone?<P> Have you read the book How One of you Can bring The Two of You Together? It was good about just looking at things in a different way. I guess I need to read it again.<P><BR> I'm tired and have to go to work tomorrow. First day back since my return from the funeral. To much thinking about things and analizing every detail can wear a person out.<BR>Lora<BR>
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Hi Lora,<BR>Dont have time to write,but saw your post. Hang in there.bethn
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{{{Lora}}}:<P>Your H's actions really hurt you I can see, but it sounds kind of like the symptoms of depression.<P>He might just be having a really bad day and not be realizing he can/should be talking to you about it. (Of course, it's a bummer that it ends up being a bad day for you, too, but try to hold on.)<P>Hang in there! --HBC
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