<BR>--------------------------------------------------------------------------------<BR>Is it wrong to confront the OW in an EA if she acts like your friend? My H is a prominent leader in our chuch and this OW has an active role in youth leadership. I want to tell her I know what is happening and make her think long and hard about her actions. I am afraid to confront my husband I am afraid he'll leave and then we will never have a chance. I believe if she thinks she's caught she'll back off and then there will be room for us to work this out but I can't when she and her husband and three kids will all be part of the discussion. I realize my H and I have serious problems but I do love him and we have children and I can forgive and we can make this work but she has to be out of the picture. Some advice please. I am reading Winning Back your Husband.

Hi<P>One thing is for certain,if you go to her to tell her you know,you will certainly end up confronting your H,because OW will tell him you came to see her.What now has to come to the surface between the two of you is unavoidable.I think it's better to approach your H.Confronting her gives her too much power,she ends up finding out a lot about you from your encounter and will likely try to use it against you with your H.<P>JMHO of course,you know your H best.