Dear betrayed spouses everywhere,<BR>My H and I are separated now -- we're in Plan B after I tried Plan A for 2 months and he continued to become less and less responsive to me meeting his emotional/physical needs.<BR>He's on his own in another state now, but OW will be joining where he works in a month.<BR>He says he still loves me, but doesn't want to give up "the best relationship he's had" with OW. We have one child (young).<BR>This whole experience is trying my patience BIG TIME! Each day feels like a year and sometimes I don't know if we'll ever reunite, yet have seen many flickers of hope that we will. Please pray that Satan's plans are blocked, that my H and OW will become so overwhelmed with guilt/disgust about what they've done that they'll be repulsed by each other. I know I've made many mistakes in our marriage and want to go through counseling, move, change our lives completely in order to make our marriage new and whole. I pray God will soften his heart enough to hear and feel that message, too. Any ideas on how to pass the time?!!<BR>faithfulone

Faithfulone,<P>How to pass the time??? Gee, if we all only knew the answer to that one! <P>First, welcome to MB. In the "just found out" forum there is a post of "welcome" by NSR (he's the unofficial welcome wagon ) He has a lot of links to the different parts of the site.<P>Plan A is the hardest thing to go thru. The only thing I can suggest to pass the time is to be good to YOU! Do things that you like to do that you never took the time for. Prayer helps a lot too. Plus you can post here and even reply to others. Sometimes that helps.<P>big (((((HUGS))))),<P>Mitzi

Faithfulone,<P>Iam sorry for your pain.I will pray for you.God give you strength at this difficult time in your life.This is a good place to pass the time,post often.bethn

faithfulone,<P>I wanted to give you the link to NSR's welcome in case you can't find it. I hope this works:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html</A> <P>(This is the first time I've tried this.) <P>Mitzi

Faithfulone:<P>I very much feel your pain. I know it's especially hard if your H is in another state. To pass the time, I would suggest you spend quality time with your child. It may seem like a lot of work when your emotion is on such roller coaster, but your child is a Gift from God, and you should treasure every moment with your child. This is how I look at my children now, before it was just busy work taking care of them, now, I enjoy them every moment I spend with them. Also, read a lot books on marriage and relationships, above all, the best way I found to pass time is to pray and read the Bible. I have read the Bible all my life and it was always black words on white paper, really meant very little to me. Now, as I read more and more, it seems like every passage jumps out at me and encourages me to have faith and courage to trust in God. Just do what your name says be Faithfulone to God and He will certainly be Faithfulone to you.<P>God Bless you and your child…<P>JEC <BR>

Dear Jannie,<BR>I'm inpatient, too! God MUST be using these experiences of infidelity to make us more patient people. Besides spending lots of time with my daughter, working, and doing things for myself, it's still hard for me to wait for H to make up his mind and end this ridiculous thing. I'm sure you feel the same. Do you live in the same city as where your H is? I don't. We're on different coasts, in fact. That makes it good for separation, but bad for any chances at some kind of reconciliation. How do you two communicate?