Ok I'm new around here<P>In my last post someone sugested I change my name saying it was "crude and offensive" is anyone else offended?<P>Please let me know. I chose this name for a reason, my good friend used it to describe my actions when I told her I had an affair, I think it describes my actions well?<BR>

I only speak for myself - I'm not offended. I actually use the term myself sometimes.<BR>

you asked....<P>I don't like your name. But, once, when I tried to post anonymously - I called myself Mrs. Mush 4 Brains.... I guess the reason why I don't like your name is it sounds like you are degrading yourself, as was I.<P>TNT

I do not dislike your name...I think it is very succinct...However I think the negetive connotation may be a hinderance to regaining your esteem...<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

While I did think, "What a gross name!" it would not/did not stop me from caring about your situation! Look at my name! Pretty gross too, huh? But so are the situations we are in, so there you go. <P>I think someday when I don't feel dead inside anymore then I will change it. Maybe when you feel differently you will change yours. But don't worry so much about what people think! <P>These people care about you! There is a lot more offensive stuff being talked about here than farts!<p>[This message has been edited by Dead Inside (edited April 20, 2000).]

Since you asked... I don't care for it. I think it is unnecessarily coarse.<P>------------------<BR>But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.<BR>Galatians 5:22-23

Like a friend says: "whatever blows your skirt (or pants) up".<P>Alex<P>------------------<BR><B>Live fully and always learn</B>

I really don't like it, and it makes me tend to not want to read your posts to be honest, not that I don't care about what your situation is, just that the name is such a turn off.<P>But then again, I have two little boys and hear this kind of stuff all the time (hate to put it in juvenile terms), so I guess I'm not exactly shocked or stunned. ??

Well, I think its about 50/50 so far??<BR>Anyone else?

Brainfart:<P>I'm not offended by your name at all. <P>Everyone here is able to use their own name or choose a new name in order to post. You chose the name "Brainfart". If you feel that this is a name that "suits you", or if you feel that it's a name that accurately describes your feelings or your situation (past or present), then, keep it.<P>I don't look at posts here on the board and say to myself, "That's a really crazy/stupid/offensive/non-creative name...I think I'll ignore that post". If someone's post catches my eye, I reply...it's that simple...regardless of name. <P>I enjoy seeing creative names here on the board. I think most people who post here do not have the intention to offend others in their user names, posts or replies.<P>The same goes for you, Brainfart. I don't think that you chose your name with the intention of offending anyone.<P>If you like the name, stick with it. <P>Jill<P>Hang in there...<P>Jill<P>P.S. I DO have brothers, so, maybe I'm just desensitized to hearing words like "fart". LOL

Thanks Jill

Ok, I'll be the first to admit, when I saw your name, I started laughing. Not at the post, just the name.<P>I have 3 sons and it's funny to them. Plus to me it's funny because my 3 yr old has started using the word. (Calls it like it is!)<P>It does seem like you're putting yourself down though, but as Dead Inside suggested, when you feel better about yourself, you'll probably want to change it on your own.<P>Mitzi

I rather like it, for what it's worth. (Although I really can't write it without laughing.)<P>What it comes down to is, What do YOU like, BF?

I like it, its kind of different, I will never forget when my friend called me by that name when I first told her about my affair, I laughed sooo much

I think you shouldn't worry about what others think about the name... it is your choice. Afterall, it isn't your real name.... is it? Kidding...<BR>

It's crude but it makes me smile. I think I'll use it for my H. (in my journaling; I'm trying not to love-bust right now. But it suits him.) Happy trails.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess

Brainfart,<P>I'm not offended at all by your name. I <BR>actually find it amusing! Besides I only <BR>look at the post and what it calls for <BR>rather than who wrote it.<P>So just keep on postin'<P>Reina

Brainfart Brainfart Brainfart <P>Who gives a damn about what people don't like or think? The hell I care. Okay here's the 'cop'per in me talking...It's your first ammendment right to call yourself whatever in the hell you please. I know when I betrayed my H two years ago, I must of had a brainfart too, to say the least. <P>Oh yeah, you just asked if I was offended, right?<P>Nope. Not one bit!! <P>Does it matter if anyone does....Okay I'll shut up now!!<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com<P>[This message has been edited by jamie-lee (edited April 22, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by jamie-lee (edited April 23, 2000).]

Sorry, but I still say to me it is offensive and crude.<P>[censored] from Texas