HI Guys,<BR> This is a little crazy and I'm sure NONE of us will be disapointed if it dosen't happen EXACTLY the way we want. <P>BUT....<P> If you're spouse came home TOMORROW, what would be the IDEAL way for YOU to have your S come home? Let it fly!!! DREAM!!!! <P>ANYTHING IS ALLOWED!!! Don't hold back!!!<P><BR> Here IS THE POST I WOULD SEND YOU GUYS!!<BR> <P>Bless this Lord, in Jesus's name I pray amen!! I LOVE YOU FRANK<BR> <P>HI To All!!<BR> THANK YOU JESUS, THANK YOU JESUS, THANK YOU JESUS,THANK YOU JESUS, THANK YOU JESUS, THANK YOU JESUS, THANK YOU JESUS, THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR> <P>YYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!<P><BR> My Wonderful, loving beautiful, gorgeous, intelligent, sexy, God loving, super mom & nana W (that's W.....I........F........E........) Came home this FABULOUS GOD SENT MORNING at 4:53 am (With our Dog too!!)<P> I guess I forgot to lock the door, she walked in and stood in the doorway to the living room. I was working on my computer. She simply said "I love you Frank, I never stopped" "Where's OUR phone?" <P> She called OM and woke him up and told him this "I am at HOME, at my REAL HOME, I love my Husband more than ANYTHING OR ANYONE IN THE WORLD and I'm going to do WHATEVER it takes to make my Marriage work" " I will spend the REST of my life making up for the pain I put my Husband through, and with God's help, we will NEVER be apart again" <BR> <BR>OH GOD, PRAISE YOUR MIGHT AND POWER FOREVER AND EVER!! <BR> <BR> He got nasty, (She was letting me listen!!) Called me a loser and a con-artist I ALMOST grabbed the phone, BUT, I let HER handle it! She then said "Don't you EVER say that about him again, I believed your LIES before but, MY Husband is the most WONDERFUL man in the world, YOU AREN'T EVEN HALF THE MAN MY HUSBAND IS!, You NEVER were and NEVER will be!!" "I thought of you as a Father figure BUT you are NOTHING like my father, either nothing!! <BR> <BR>(BTW, she wasn't mad, that would have worried me, she was COLD as ice, WE know THAT voice don't we??) No tears either (except when she looked at me everytime, she almost broke down) She was holding my hand for strength and hugging me from behind, kissing the back of my neck as we both listened. <BR> <P>I DROP TO MY KNEES IN AWE OF YOUR ALMIGHTY POWER AND PRAISE YOU GOD FATHER FOREVER THROUGH YOUR SON JESUS!!! (My heart FILLED to overflowing!!) <P> He got silent, then said "How can you do this to me?" "I love you (wife's name this is just fantasy) " MY AWESOME Wife replied, "I'm sorry, but the question OM is, HOW COULD I DO THIS TO FRANK, HE'S BEEN THERE FOR ME MOST OF MY LIFE!!" " He IS MY FAMILY" "MY HEART AND MY TRUE SOULMATE" "He IS ME" "I NEED HIM and he NEEDS ME" <P> He cried, (I kind of felt bad for him) He said "What now?" My INCREDIBLE WIFE said, "MY Husband and my son will be over tomorrow to pick up my stuff around noon, I already called S" "Please move my stuff to the garage, leave it open and don't be there." " I put a sticky note on the stuff I want" " You keep the rest and please have our money" "OM, again I'm sorry, but I kept telling you I loved him" "Please don't make any trouble, you've caused enough already" " I made copies of those deals if you do" "I'm going to tell my Husband everything tonight so you won't have it over OUR heads anymore" "I pray he forgives me" "Goodbye" and she hung up before he could answer!! She turned me around and gave me the GREATEST SINGLE KISS I EVER GOT IN MY ENTIRE LIFE!!! (Hey Lori!!!!! I got it!!!) <P> Well, we talked until 9am, it was tough but I told her it wasn't as bad as MY NIGHTMARES about how it was. He made her feel guilty everytime she hinted about coming home (Especially, after the "Mall" day) He asked her to go with him to his W's grave and he told his Wife he was sorry, but he loved her and that he wanted to marry her and he cried. He just played on her emotions. She is a good kindhearted person. She couldn't leave. So she tried with him. He kept reminding her of the pain I caused, so she stayed because she was scared I wouldn't change. <P> Hey guys, just for the record PLAN "A" WORKS!!! It was the letters and cards and little gifts that gave her the courage, and she said the DAY she say OUR condo, she knew I had changed and it was time to make our marriage work. BUT most of all, it was the Sunday she went to church, she said she was shaking all over and almost didn't go in. She went to OUR church and stayed upstairs and left before we came up.(she had to hide in the closet a couple of times when people used the bathroom, isn't that cute as all!!) She even took communion because there is always some left over and they bring it upstairs. She sang when she wasn't crying (which she said was almost constantly) and she left at the end. Then she peeked in the window and watched me teach the kids. She said she fell to her knees and asked God to forgive her and to give her the strength to leave OM. As she got up to leave, she peeked in the window on more time and said she was filled with the holy spirit and ALL of her love for me came back RIGHT THEN. <BR> <BR> She went right to my Mothers and they cried and cried, even my sister cried!! She made them promise NOT to tell me (they were afraid to anyway because she had called and told my Mother we were getting back together before!!) She then drove to my Brother's house and told them, My Brother was a tougher nut to crack and called her a few names she told him the WHOLE STORY and he caved in and HE and his W CRIED TOO!! They made her stay there because it was late, my brother went out and bought her a nurse's uniform so she wouldn't have to go to OM's EVER again while he was home!! She called OM from there and told him she was at HER brother's house and it was late and didn't want to drive home. (OM didn't know she DOESN'T HAVE a BROTHER!!) <P> OM said that was OK because he was watching the Baseball game and having a couple of beers anyway. She went to work the next day and came straight here. My Mother called and I talked to her and my sister the day she came over! I should have figured it out because the BOTH asked how I was (I was having the WORST DAY remember my post?) and told me to hang on and pray!! <P><BR> They WERE telling me to forget her and move on!! I'm usually pretty good at figuring things out BUT, I would have NEVER guessed THIS would happen after the other day and with the D court date soon near and everything!! BTW, we got her stuff (S and I alone OM wasn't there but there was a note TO (my W's name) but I left it, My SUPER Wife said "Good, I don't want his lies anymore anyway!! ) and when we were finished unloading it out of his van, MY WONDERFUL WIFE suggested we go to her Lawyers office and tell him to cancel the date because the D was OFF!!) <BR> <P>I PRAISE YOU OH GOD OF GOD'S WITH YOUR INFINITE WISDOM AND AWESOME AWESOME POWER!! FOREVER I AM ON MY KNEES IN YOUR SERVICE!!<P><BR> Her lawyer asked if she was sure!! Here we are holding each other all the way to his desk and he had the nerve to ask that? Oh well, GOD bless him too!! I'm to happy to hate anyone anymore!!<P><BR> Now the $64,000.00 question, did we make love!! OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO WONDROUS AND WISE AND POWERFUL!!! I AM IN AWE, I AM IN AWE!!<BR> YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS <P> Like our wedding night, NO BETTER WAY BETTER!! BUT I must say, to my surprise, I enjoyed holding her AFTER MUCH MUCH MUCHHHHHHHH more. WE fell asleep with her face in that special little place in my back she always said God made FOR HER JUST HER!!<P><BR> Well, do MB principals work? ONLY WITH ALMIGHTY GOD'S HELP!!!! (Through a little angel named Lori for me!! ) PRAISE HIM ABOVE ALL THINGS!! SEEK GOD FIRST AND ALL YOU NEED WILL BE GIVEN UNTO YOU!! AMEN!! GOOD LUCK & PRAYERS FRANK<P>OK, THAT'S MY "FANTASY POST!! YES IT GOT OUT OF HAND BUT....... I WAS DREAMING!!!! IT MADE ME FEEL GREAT!!!!! TRY IT!!!!<P>LET'S HERE YOURS. DON'T HOLD BACK!! MAYBE GOD WILL HEAR US?????????????????<BR>I LOVE YOU ALL AND YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS<P>FRANK<BR>P.S. FLAME THIS ONE!!!!!!<P><BR>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>[This message has been edited by PLEASE HELP (edited April 22, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by PLEASE HELP (edited April 22, 2000).]

Oh man... I just want her to come back, period. I dont care how it happens, as long as it happens and the sooner the better. I do dream that one day she will tell me that she loves me and wants to move back in... I would personally move all her stuff myself!! I would even be happy if she just said that she wants to give our marriage a try.. or if she just put off the divorce for awhile.. ANYthing at this point would be an improvement.. <P>I dream that she is willing to go on a little *getaway* with me, and she finds out that by being with me, she still does have feelings for me and we make love with a passion like never before which all the more confirms her feelings... <P>These happen to be the only dreams I wish to come true.

Right now a simple sign that she is considering me once again would be cause for a major celebration. I can't imagine what would happen if she came to the door and said she was moving back. I would not care how that unfolded...I would be there to accept her with open arms and no questions asked at the time.<P>J W

Oh, Frank, you crack me up!!!! <P>When you go somewhere, you sure go all the way!! What a wonderful dream!<P>I just stopped in to say Hi, but you know, once I got the quiet "If you'll have me, I think I'm thinking about maybe wanting to come home sometime", I forgot all about my fantasy reunion!!! Most beautiful words I ever heard!!<P>Keep on being positive. I'm a firm believer in the power of thought and words.<P>Luv ya and have a great Easter!<P>Lori

OK, now I feel REALLY stupid!!! <BR> I guess I have a pretty vivid imagination huh!! It made me feel good though!! Yeah, I just want her back too!! <BR> Oh, well..... GOOD LUCK & PRAYERS FRANK

Frank,<BR>I often think about how she will come to her senses. But right now I just want her to be what she professes to be a God fearing and loving Christian. Once that happens all the wonderful things you mentioned will be EVEN BETTER because it will be genuine as opposed to what I have dealt with for nearly 15 years.<P>I don't see myself winning her back. I see it as God winning her for the first time which entails my winning her for the first time. I consider winning her to be permanent and not temporary. I am just one of the broken vessels God has chosen to win her to Himself.<P>DREAMING IS WONDERFUL. <P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net

OK, I'll bite.<P>She calls me and says that she is sorry and that we need to have a long talk. We meet at the Santa Monica Pier.<P>During the talk we exchange our hurts, resentments, problems, fears, hopes, wishes and desires. The bad ones we write on napkins. With the positive ones we make tentative plans for our new life.<P>After we have talked, we go down to the beach. As a symbol of our new life and new beginning, we dig a hole in the sand and put all of the bad ones in the hole and cover it up.<P>We go back to our children and live happily ever after.

She calls crying,saying what have i done. She then says how could you still love me after all i have done(drugs,other men,Hitting me,etc.) I said because i grew close to God and He taught me how and loved you thru my heart.She then said will you come and pick me up at my mothers house(mother hates me) i said why not this should be fun,is your mother there.She says yes,but shes not very happy because i stood up to her finally and told her i love my husband and theres nothing she can ever do again to get in the way of that love. When i pick her up she is very calm and humble. I can see the love of Jesus in her eyes and she says we can now have a wonderful life together and she thanked God i never gave up on her. I took her home and we just hold each other and enjoy each others prescense. We of course make love all night and wake up very happy and smiling in the morning. Then we go get our son at my sisters and go to the beach like we used to early in our marriage. Then we live happily ever after!

Hi PH -<P>I can't put a nice long scenario like you and the others have - I haven't thought that far....<P>Let's just say that what I HAVE envisioned involves some rope, a firearm and a sterilization vat!!!!<P>LOLOLOLOL!!!! (evil grin, rubbing hands together!!!!)<P>Love Ya,<P>Sheba

HI grandpabri,<BR> That's a GREAT one!! I am DEFINITELY going to use the burying in the sand thing (as long as you haven't go a copyright, can't afford the lawyers fee!!) That's a good one!!<P>lostpup,<BR> I love the line "I can see the love of Jesus in her eyes and she says we can now have a wonderful life together and she thanked God I never gave up on her"<BR> I LONG to see the love of Jesus in my W's eyes again. She said she's going back to church next week after over THREE YEARS and she ws brought up in the church PRAISE GOD!!<BR> What you said about her thanking God you never gave up on me seems to be a VERY common feeling of the betrayer from the success stories I've read.<P> SHEBA SHEBA SHEBA <BR> "Let's just say that what I HAVE envisioned involves some rope, a firearm and a sterilization vat!!!! [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img] <BR> LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL ROFLOL (?) [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img]<BR> Let me say THAT was the best laugh I've had since "D" day!!! LOL LOL LOL!!!!!<P> Hey guys, thanks for playing! I was ready to dig a hole and hide my head or "check in" to the clinic!! [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] <BR>ANYONE ELSE.....GO OUT ON A LIMB IT'S A DREAM REMEMBER!! GOOD LUCK AND PRAYERS FRANK<P><P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

Hey, Frank. Off-subject here. You did pretty good with something, so would you go check out Gabrielle's post on forgiveness??<P>I think you'll have some good advice for her.<P>Luv ya,<P>Lori

LORI,<BR> What something? The OM letter something?<BR>LMK THANKS FRANK