I want to post this for those that are or were involved in an 'Internet' affair where you never met the person, but had some intense relationship. <P>Learn from my husbands' mistake - PLEASE! Some may have read about my sleuthing adventures to 'learn more' about this OW. Well - be ready for what you learn.... We have just learned that this other person - he had been 'friendly' with for a year now - is a teenager. So many of the things she said to him to draw his sympathy just didn't hold water. The realization came when he finally told me what story she had given him about her life. I figured it out and we have since confirmed it. <P>He is SICK to learn what he did and he swares he never knew and I believe him, but I also told him he better NOT have sent her any 'intimate' mail that she may have kept or stored somewhere because if he did - he may be in ALOT of trouble. <P>It appears this girl's mom gave her a cell phone - so the phone was registered in her mom's name, all calls to my husband were made around her school hours - my husband just thought she didn't work - and - her mom was listed on an internet chat site and the daughter was using her identity while on line. The mom had forgotten she was even registered on the site. <P>On a good note..... this discovery has made him FINALLY schedule with a counselor. Along with some of the current topics - he is also sexually addicted and got caught up in the porn on the internet - it became everything - where he spent every available minute - late nights, early mornings, all weekend and, he was going to these sites while at work - this whole thing spiraled him down big time.<P>I am happy to finally report that 'we are on the mend' - the pain suddenly has started to ease and we are working very hard to correct what problems we had and to grow our marriage. We are still in the initial stage, but I think we are on the same page. <P>

The OW in our case had a similar set-up of sympathy, and phone sex with at least two other guys from what I discovered. In those cases they thought she was madly in love with only them. She was stringing herself a pretty nice male harem. You can say anything over the internet. Read about one relationship vie email that ended in murder, and there have been plenty of those stalker type cases out there.

Hi.<P>As some people here know, I met my OM online and had an EA for around six months before we set up a weekend meeting (he lived out of state). Aside from the fear that he'd be psychopath, I was also afraid that he had been lying to me about his identity, etc. I kept thinking, "What if this guy turns out to be my Uncle Bob from Nebraska and then he tells everyone that I was trying to have an online affair? What if this guy is a gang member? What if this guy is 100 years old? Even worse, what if he's 16? What if he's a drug dealer or some other kind of criminal?" ALL of those thoughts ran through my head. I guess I was "lucky" in the sense that at least the OM was truthful to me about his age, identity, etc. <P>I have often looked back at how STUPID I was to get into a car with a guy that I knew only from the Internet. I've said before that he could've beaten me, raped me and left me for dead in the airport parking lot. <P>Yes, I was playing with FIRE, but I was so caught in the trap of adultery at that time that I didn't even care about the possibility of being burned.<P>I've also told myself that if I met the OM and he DID turn out to be my Uncle Bob from Nebraska, then I'd be getting what I deserved. Wouldn't THAT have been a SHOCKER? LOL <P>Thanks for helping us to learn from your husband's mistake. I hope that your situation works out for the best.<P>Jill