Talked to H once again today. He asked me why I won't file. I said I wouldn't, he then said because you are still in love with me, just a shot in the dark. I said yes. He said he loved me also.<BR>(Yesterday said he didn't think thats what he wanted to do either, felt he would regret it the rest of his life, make the biggest mistake of his life).<P>We started talking, he said he felt the problem was me, but he is not happy with Skanky either. Realized the problem was HIM!!<BR>I very carefully asked, have you thought about seeing someone, He said he felt he needed to do that. I called my insurance, got a referral called him back with all the info. <P>Said he missed me. Baby, baby, baby..... Said he almost left the other night. (Of course wish he would have). I didn't say anything to that. <P>I can only pray that he makes an appointment, is honest with the counsler and gets help. Told him if he needed to talk I would be here.<P>Well thats my baby steps for today..... Please pray for us.<P>Tracy<P>

Tracy,<P>You sound like you did a great Plan A the other day...<BR>...keep up the great work. <BR>You can do it!!!<P>You I'm praying for you...<P>I know these prayers work...<BR>...prayres in small steps for my situation have helped tremendously...<BR>...especially this weekend. <P> <P>JIm

[QOUTE]Realized the problem was HIM!![/QUOTE]<P>Hallelujah!!! This is s great step!<P>Do not be too disappointed if he doesn't go right to the counselor,,,my H had to think about it a while first. But, realizing the the unhappiness and emptiness was within is a wonderful step!!!<P>Kathi

I agree with Kathi,don't be surprised if it takes H a little while to actually get to the counselor. That's ok. I truly believe so many of these men(WS) are depressed,trying to medicate themselves with OW who give their ego a BIG boost.It is inevitable that the high wears off sooner or later.Sounds like that's what happened with your H. However,they STILL feel bad and that forces them to come to realize that the problem is with THEM. Once the emptiness becomes unbearable and nothing provides a permanent fix they usually will wake up and find a permanent solution......self examination,discovery and growth.Good luck and lots of prayers your way!

Great job.<P>Good Luck.

Tell me not to worry ok...<P>Havent heard anything from H since yesterday am. Just keep remembering baby steps right?? I was hoping he would call or something... baby steps baby steps baby steps. I've got to continue to tell myself this. By the way he still is living with Skanky Ho.<P>Thanks for your support guys!!<P>Tracy<P>