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Well, I did it this time..........<BR>I was LB'ing all over the place... I'm sick and tired of feeling all the hurt... Sick of living in this limbo... why should I be working my butt off on this PLAN A stuff and get nothing but hurt in return... Yes he is still in contact with the OW... the love of his life... the mirror of himself... well today I HAD IT.. I told him to GET OUT.. I don't want anyone with me that doesn't want to be here... I'm not doing plan NOTHING !!! If he wants a divorce FINE with me... He thinks that no attornys should be involved... guess again !!!! He wants everything his way... <P>I told him what the new ground rules would be... no coming and going from here as he pleases... If this is how he wants things this is how its gonna be... I admit I said alot of terrible things to him... I was crying.. I just can't take it any longer!!!<P>I told him... Peace be with you... go in peace..<P>scoick
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I am so sorry. I have been where you are more times than I will ever care to admit. Dont beat yourself up...you are human too. Take a deep breath and know that prayers are with you now. The more you ask God for His ability to love H and to not let your "humanness" get in the way, the more you can do it. I was ready to throw in the towel a few days ago but I went back to my journal to read why I was going to stick this out. Once I did that, I was able to calm down and realize its not about me right now. Remember why you want to stay married to him, focus on the good he has in him. If you want the chance to make it work, since your H is not being the grown up-you have to be. Give without expecting anything in return and you wont be disappointed. (I know its easier said than done). prayers to you<BR>Kris
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scoick,<P>How about giving <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A> a try...<BR>...before the divorce.<P>You sound like you've exhausted your time in <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<P>Think <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>.<P>Check out my old posts...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011323.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101</A> ...and... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011046.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101</A>.<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim
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