Well, H was supposed to get a new place in June. ( with Skanky) HES NOT GOING TO!!!!!<P>I called him this am, my car insurance is back with his. I asked when he was planning on moving? I said I wish you wouldn't do that. That's just my opinion. He said he valued my opinion. <P>He called me later in the day to say he wasn't moving. This is too good to be true. I just said, I am very proud of you. Told me to call him, he likes when I call. Told me he loved me, misses me. I said love you too, miss you. <P>The reason for the call this am was to see if he had made appointment with counsler. He hadn't yet but is going to for sure. I told him I would like to go with him if he wanted me to. Just for support. As a friend. He asked about the friend thing, I said I felt he needed a friend more than anything right now.<P>Before all this he asked about the wall unit and big screeen if I was going to let him have that. I said no. He laughed (blew me away). All I can say about that is, we bought that together and the hell if skanky is going to enjoy it. (I THOUGHT this, did not say it). <P>I also put my wedding rings back on this am. I thought I am still married and I am going to wear them. <P>Thats my update!! <P>BABY STEPS, BABY STEPS, BABY STEPS.......<P><BR>Tracy

Way to go Tracy...<P>Thank heaven for little steps!<P> <P>JIm

Tracy,<BR> That's such good news!!!!! He's making a come back,I do believe that. My H would test me on things (like your H did with the TV)and I got that laugh also.We're doing great now.I can see your H moving in that direction. Give him space on the counselor issue.It might do him great good to go on his own. I wouldn't push that one.My H really valued the privacy he had with his counselor.It made him really feel he was getting an unbiased opinion of his mess/fantasy.My mess,his fantasy. Hang in there....I see a recovery on the horizon!

Perfect baby steps!!!<P>Geez! Those are huge BABY STEPS!!<P>Keep that ring on, and let it symbolize to you the commitment that the Lord has for your marriage - so when you and he don't feel like it - you know someone else, a third party with a lot of power - is there to keep you glued together.<P>Perfect for thinking things and not saying them. Self control! Good good good.<BR>TNT