<BR>I didn't want to clutter the "List" thread <BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/002858.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/002858.html</A> <P>with comments so I started another one to make comments.<P>So far the items on the list that speak to me the loudest are #2 and #6.<P>If the love for the OP is really that strong, we need to be able to let go of them, if not for our sakes or the sake of our families, then for their sake. If we selfishly CAN'T let them go, the it's not rally love and we need to let it go because of that.<P>We need to accept the inevitable pain that we have caused ourselves (and our families) and move through it. We must get to the other side of it where everything is crystal clear. There's only fog on this side.