Well, on the 9th of May (my b-day) my H and I went to dinner. I was PLANNING on no relationship talk, etc etc but we started talking. <P>We had a blast! We finished dinner and went out for drink afterwards. (I wasn't ready to go home yet!!) <P>My H started talking about coming home, if any of you remember on Mar 30th we met and talked and he wanted to,the next day said "I cant." <P>So when he started talking about coming home I didn't WALK with it. I told him I wanted him ONLY if he could commit 110%. Told him to take his time, that he needed to really think about it, make sure etc etc. He said he would give it a couple of days. He ended up spending the night, against my better judgement but....<P>Went to work the next am, he called me and said he thought he would be moving out that day. I was shocked. Talked to him pretty much all day. I went to lunch, tryed calling on his cell no answer, called his work got the answering machine. <P>Was getting REALLY nervous (kept telling myself no biggy!!) At 2:30, he called and asked if I could meet him at home, he had all his stuff and was on his way!!!<P>Made an appointment for a counsler, May 26th.<P>A few questions...<BR>When he came back the first time, I asked alot of quesitons, was reading my life saving books etc etc... THIS time I haven't asked any questions and I feel no urge to do so. Is this normal?? <P>The only thing I asked of him was NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT! He said he agreed to that. (God, I pray). Thank God that he has switched jobs. He no longer works with her. <P>I guess I have no urge to talk about this/her and I'm just concentrating on rebuilding our marriage, is this normal?? <P>I also told him, no promises he can't keep. <P>Its kind of a weird homecoming cuz I now have 2 roommates. A female (I gave up our bedroom for her)and a male, (he's a friend of my x's) the girls are in a room together. We have got a full house. He's ok with all of that.<P>All I can do is pray that everything works out. The books and this forum have given me life and I have changed for the better, I think he really sees that!<P>Pray for us and any suggestions would be appreciated!!<P>Thank all of you for your wisdom and prayers!!!<P>Tracy<P>

Good news.... <P>I haven't followed your story, but I think that it seems like this could be the real turning point, and a switch to recovery.<P>I guess many feeling are overwhelming you at the moment, and that you might have the urge to know more after a little while has passed. Did your H send a NO CONTACT letter to OW, that you have reviewed and made sure was sent? If not that might be a good idea to send such a letter, even co-signing it to show a united front.<P>Now brace yourself for the roller-coaster ride and H's withdrawal symptoms. Glad that you're both going to counselling.<P>Prayers and Hope for you and your family.

Tracy <P>You've made my day with the great news...<BR>...I've been up since 2 AM drafting replies to my attorney on all kinds of stupid stuff for my divorce!<P>You've come a long way...<BR>...you know it's not over yet...<BR>...but you're doin great!<P> <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited May 12, 2000).]

What a great start to recovery!!! I hope all goes well. I thought at first the other people in the house might be a problem but then they might be used as a distraction to help you the period of withdrawl with him. I would try to find a way to use their being there to both of your advantages.<P>Love and Prayers for Both of You!!