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Just wanted anyone out there who is having problems w/ getting on the right track of plan A and constantly lbing there is hope. For 4mths I have been trying to Plan A, and when I was not home w/ H, I had the best intentions but the minute i saw him - the internal emotional demons came out and i made his and my life miserable. <P>NOT TODAY - the demons were there - but today is the first day i was able to refocus them (just a little) and not have confrontational (sp?) arguements w/ him over issues that would have sent me to tears weeks ago. In some odd way i feel stronger and in control of myself - even as he was being nasty and pissing me off today and tonight - the fact that i said to myself "WHATEVER" and did not let him bother me - gave me a feeling of control over him - that today i did not let my H get under my skin. Granted i don't know if i will be so strong tomorrow - but the fact that I showed signs today gives me hope.<P>If i can do this - anyone can. This is the perfect mothers day gift i've ever received and I gave it to myself.<P>Sam<P>------------------<BR>
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yay! good for you. ive had the same sort of experiences lately, and it feels so good to stay in control an not lb. i agree, if I can do it, anyone can.
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Good for you Sam,<BR> I'm glad you feel more in control. I am the same way, during the week when I don't see him I feel great and strong, then on the weekend I just react to his moods and have a hard time.I am doing Ok on the Non LB too, but haven't gotten to a strong place in myself where I feel I can go on. Maybe its baby steps for us.<BR>Lora
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I realized this am why i was so strong and confident about not lb this wkend - even when he was annoying. Because there were no triggers to remind me of ow. This am when we were getting ready for work and he was looking at himself in the mirror - some insecurity came back (is he thinking that he looks good when he sees her in the office). But i did not lb and i am not going to let him control my emotions or my negativitiy about myself. (My therapist tells me thats the headset i should take) <P><BR>Good Luck to everyone trying to rebuild our marriages.<P>Sam
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