After so many ups and downs, I'm afraid to believe I'm seeing some progress...but it seems some good things are happening!<P>H has been having EA/PA for more than a year. Kids and I moved 4 hrs. away in Feb.(D-day was in Jan. when he discovered OW was pregnant--she since lost the OC). He's been visiting us on weekends. Several weeks ago he moved in with OW.<P> I've been doing Plan A since reading SAA (3 mos). It has definitely made a difference. Since his living with OW, our weekends have been increasingly tense (on his part mostly) -- but OW has been putting more pressure on him and LB big-time. Two selfish brats...it was inevitable.<P>This week he tells me he and OW are calling it quits, he wants us to reunite after school's out. <P>Now he's said this once or twice before, but this time I think there's reason to believe the fantasy is finally cracking. He says they've been fighting a lot, she's "high maintenance" and he can't give her what she wants (dump his wife & kids).<P>He's broken so many promises that it's hard for me to get excited...and I won't until I see some action behind those words. Says she's moving out the 1st of month, and he's going to live somewhere else until then. We'll see...<P>At any rate, thanks for all your prayers -- and any advice at this point. I've been hanging on by my fingernails for a long time, getting close to bailing...(H hasn't so much as held my hand in a year!) -- but then I look at my two precious children, and go another day....<P>I'm ready for this nightmare to end.

Camryn,<P>Do stick with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... <P>When it becomes hard...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/19991128-1-008150.html" TARGET=_blank>Just do it</A>. (It's a good post)<P> <P>Jim

Camryn, Hang in there...baby steps remember...I am saying those words to you even though I am having a difficult time remembering them myself... I have been supportive but as always the jump ahead to the conclusion person...<P>I am not judging, but I am nudging gently....<P>What you are saying, the OP putting more pressure on him and LBing...it is the best fantasy buster.......<P>I am going to be 'addicted to this forum this weekend because I have fallen into the abyss again, after a real nice vacation......<P><BR>I guess I'll look inside again and find the strength....with God's help<P>Jim....you really are my angel... I can't tell you how many of your words and your other threads...."do it anyway" have inspired me in the darkest hour.<P>I am fighting so hard from being sucked into this mess of my H, ow and her H......<P>Ow just moved out (mother's day) to press my H farther..............It makes me anxious...but I am going to block it out, with God's help....I am going to let it go....with God's help......I am going to be OK....with God's help......and your great advice.....thanks for being everywhere....

Thanks, Jim. I'm no Mother Theresa, but by God's grace I'm going to "just do it." <P>I am truly in awe of you and many on this board...you demonstrate such strength and courage in this battle...<P>Tootrusting, you also are a great encouragement. When my H said he needed more "space" and then moved in with OW, it felt like my heart was being carved out. But, oddly enough, it seems to have worked in my favor...<P>So don't despair. God works in mysterious ways. We just have to TRUST Him -- and try to "detach" from our WS when it gets too intense. This, too, shall pass....<P>You will be in my prayers this weekend.

Camryn,<P>Thanks for keeping me in your prayers. Like I said I am falling into the abyss again. I thought I had some light, then she moved out....but you know...she will always be the loser in this situation.<P>I just need to keep a grip!!!! I slacked off on all the praying...my mistake.]<P>I know it is in His hands. I pray that He will rescue my H from her power.<P>I am much better when I disengage...I did that early and it really helped. I must be having some female surges!!!! (ha ha) I have a daughter going through adolescence now...that's why I said that....the mood swings are incredible......so much fun to b e female..<P>When I read the posts of Jim, Chris and K I marvel at their steadyness... they don't know how lucky they are to not have to deal with some of the emotional swings....of femaleness.....Sometimes I search for their posts to keep me grounded.<P>They are too the point....sometimes I lob!!!!