Thank you for your response. I know I need to calm down. I responded in that post about why I felt the need to do plan B. But now that I've read LostVa's respnse to me it makes me think I should just get sucked back into the insanity and keep planaing.<P>Problem is I think Op really wants my H to get a D. I think she is pushing for it really.....He can't seem to think for himself....He may just want me to do it....or "use" the counselor. <P>I do need to go away.....I won't be nasty, but I do need to go away.......Motherbard is right.....it is when I am strong he loses it. This weakness stuff gives him power to keep hurting me.....<P>He is NOT nice to my kids and he was always NICE to them......Why should I let him hurt their self-esteem as much as he has tried to hurt mine.......What did they do to him.. What needs did they not meet......the "perfection" need.<P>ANyway, Despite me sounding so crazy, I have actually started to regroup......I guess it is PMS and I am overwhelmed with hormones....but I am regrouping and coming up with my own agenda......for this summer.<P>Like I said....I have always had a life.. I have always taken care of myself, and been independent. Maybe I am doing him more harm than good by enabling him......