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You might also want to check out ===><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/000985.html" TARGET=_blank>50 signs your spouse is having an affair (All found on this board)</A>.<P>These may be more indicative of problems.<P> <P>Jim

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by yuki miaka:<BR><B> I think my H is taking me for granted, but I'm not entirely sure. Thanks a bunch!! </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>If you feel taken for granted, you probably are. Even if he doesn't think so, your feelings are not generating positive actions between you, so they should probably be addressed so that things can change.<P>I have found- through much pain- that the best way to get someone to treat you more positively is to treat them more positively. I know when they are ignoring you and taking you for granted, you feel like they don't deserve a smile, a helping hand, or anything special, but you might be surprised at how much a simple nice act can do. If it's been a long time since you've done those kinds of things for each other, it might take a lot of simple, nice acts, but don't give up. Eventually it registers inside somewhere and he'll come around and see how unkind he's been.

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Yuki,<BR>If your husband treats you worse when you treat him better it could be a bad sign. It could be that he's feeling guilty for something and don't like it when you are being nice to him. I don't want to make the conclusions for you, but it could be that he's hiding something for you.<P>scandinavian

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