Just wanted some advice. Ive been reading through the latest threads today trying to find a similar situation (its sad how they all are similar in ways) but nothing is really helping so here goes. I need to rant. (i posted this in divorcing/divorced too)<P>H races on the weekends and I used to be his "sidekick". In Sept I had our first child, in Nov he moved out to pursue his EA which resulted in a pregnancy. OW is due in Oct. I am divorcing H (filed before I knew about PA) and am trying for legal custody. H has asked me to bring our son to the races on the days OW is not there (NOT!!!!) I said no thanks. H still thinks we should not D while he is involved with OW because he doesnt want our marrige to end yet (???). H asked if our son can be at the races with him this weekend but I do not want OW around him until D is final ...I hate how she treats her own child (6yrs old, different dad, never married, OW's 21 - H is 35). H did offer for his mom to watch our son at the racetrack (all my inlaws think H is screwed up right now and do not like OW and arent yet claiming OC) Anyway, I don't want to be a control freak with my child. I do want to protect him from OW
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. After the Divorce, I won't have a voice in what H does with our child when he's with H. I am a Christian, H claims it when convienient but even the pastor who married us told me he thinks H "got saved" when I did so I would marry him. I want our child to know Jesus, right from wrong, etc...but H will probably live with OW and have our son involved in his lifestyle. H took OW to Florida with 3 other couples a week ago which cemented my desire to proceed with the divorce. My love for H is almost dead but he knows how to disturb my peace by calling at the last minute to ask for our son, by asking me to change our plans for him. Whew. My real question...how easy is it to allow OW into your childs life. Do I do what I think is best for my child this weekend or give into his dad for daddys ego Our son is only 8 months old and I dont think the racetrack is the place for a baby (unless his mommy is also there and the OW is out of the picture
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). Help??<P>up until this morning when I said no to the races, i have been plan A ing very well (he said i said no to punish him)<P>Thanks<BR>Kris