All,<P>I made it thru yesterday thanks to everyone here who posted and supported me thru it. You guys are wonderful. Don't know what I would have done without your caring posts.<P>And thank-you God for this forum. Unless you've been thru something like this, most ppl don't have a clue what to say or do. They want to help but can't understand it. It's Greek to them. Seems most ppl are so appalled they simply tell you to "end it and move on!" Oh sure, just like that, so easy.<P>I met with our counselor this a.m., I told her that the "Book" tell us that an average affair lasts 6 mos post going public. She said that's true. Told her I was planning on giving my H that 6 mos doing a Plan A. She discouraged me and sd go 3 mos and then see where you're at. She sd she's worried about the holidays and being left alone.<P>She also sd that the 6 mos rule for affairs ending may not apply in my case as the OW has an edge on me, she's the mother of my H's son and uses that to it's full advantage (manipulation and guilt).<P>So I'm worried about that statement. Can anyone here address that scenario where OW has OC from H in an A. And how it can effect the duration or final outcome of an A.<P>I've already gleaned the Affair w/Children forum and no luck.<P>Here's a "corny" joke to show you guys I'm not all doom and gloom:<P>A local man was found murdered in his home over the weekend. Detectives at the scene found the man face down in his bathtub. The tub had been filled with milk and corn flakes, and the deceased had a banana<BR>protruding from his back.<P>Police suspect a cereal killer. <P>God Bless you all!<BR>Jo <BR>

Hey if it was fruit loops and milk I guess that would put a whole new spin on it