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Hello everyone.<P>I haven't written since last week. I've been lurking though and reading, reading, reading.<P>My husband and I have each been to see the marriage counselor we found, separately. Tomorrow is the first meeting with everyone in the same room. I am very nervous - I am afraid. I can't even tell you of what exactly. Hearing the counselor say, "Why bother? There's no hope for you." I don't honestly think that anyone reputable would say that. I could use some positive thoughts, prayers.<P>NSR - I love reading your "inspirations". I print them out to read over and over. I feel calmer somehow. Thank you.
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Lost it,<P>Listen, I hate it when those counselors give you those kind of statements ... "There's no hope for you" that really erks me. You know better, right?<P>If you and your H are honest with yourselves and are both willing to counsel, then of course there's hope.<P>If you haven't already, you need to read Bozos_Deb story, talking about beatin the odds and having a goal and staying focused. Pls ask Deb where it can be found, I can't remember how I got there. It worthwhile reading.<P>Try not to be nervous, take some Melatonin tonight to get a good night's sleep. I'll say prayers for you both.<P>God Bless and tell us how it goes.<P>Jo
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Have never heard of a marriage counselor saying that! If so then you definitely need a different counselor whose main goal is for you two to stay together and work on a marriage. Ask for credentials because it sounds like this counselor has none!
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<B>lost it</B>,<P>Look not just for <B>any</B> counselor..<BR>Find one that agrees and uses MB concepts...<BR>Ask them... if they don't know what your talking about... change (like <B>trying2_4give</B> suggests.)<P>It's your money/time/psyche...<BR>...don't waste it.<P>There have been several posts on counselling...<BR>Check out he "Counselling" section in my <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A> post.<P>And for a little humor...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/002206.html" TARGET=_blank>What Planet are my Counselors from?</A>…..wasstubborn/(NSR page 2)…..4/6/2000!<P>---------------------------------------------<P>I'll try and continue with my posts on "inspirational" stories/quotes/etc.<P>They help me too!<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim
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