Parking lot lady called again last night ! <BR>D$%^ !<P>Mike talked to her, it seems she has to find a new apartment, but, there is a problem she has a criminal record. <P>Mike wanted me to talk to her, I refused ! I am angry ! I want this person to go away !<P>I'm telling you guys the next call will be because she is on the streets and has no place to go. I can just feel it coming ! <P>Well, I'm not staying here if he lets her come here, not even for one blasted second !<P>I told him if she calls back I expect him to tell her not to call again, he can tell her why if he wants to. <P>I don't care what she thinks of me , he started this mess by giving her our number because he felt sorry for her, I expect him to put a stop to it ! <P>This has brought the nightmares and the fear back, I can't cope with it.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Deb,<BR>I can't believe that this woman called again! She really is strange! I hope that Mike will tell her not to call again. I'll keep my fingers crossed and I'll pray for you.

Thank you, No Trust. I need all the prayers I can get.<P>This just tears me up. I know I may be over reacting, but I can't help it. I feel this woman can be a real danger to my marriage.

I'm in awe.<P>I cannot imagine!<P>Deb, I'm praying for you as hard as I can. This needs to stop - NOW!!<P>Love and prayers,<P>Lori

Hey Deb,<P>It's very nice that he wants to help this poor woman out, but, at what expense?<P>Your marriage and the relationship. Too costly I would fear.<P>Tell him exactly how you feel. Us, men folk aren't the brightest ones on the face of the earth ya know.<P>I like to help people out too. But, the M comes first and so does my W. If a situation threatens either of these, time to eject.<P>Zippy<P>

How about looking in the phone book...<BR>...for the closest woman's shelter!<P>Pass this on to your H...<BR>...and let him know... it's a message from God!<P> <P>Jim

Deb,<P>You are NOT over-reacting. In fact, if I were in your shoes, I would be having the same reaction! Your marriage is still in recovery and is vulnerable. If you don't feel comfortable with parking lot lady calling then it isn't a good idea if Mike is talking to her. Both of you should be in agreement with this, and if one of you feels uncomfortable, then it would be best to stay away from parking lot lady. I guess this is where the POJA comes in.<P>I wish I could go into Mike's mind and fix it! LOL!<P>Hang in there Deb....hugs....

Thanks guys,<P>Lori,<P>It is a bit much isn't it. Thank you for praying. <P>Medic, <P>Believe me, I have made my feelings on this known. Mike has no doubt what so ever where I stand on this subject, I've never been one to play "guess what I think".<P>Jim, <P>You make me laugh. If she calls back ( and I have no doubt that she will ) I will tell him to tell her to find a shelter and if I have to I will tell her not to call again myself. I hate to be nasty to people I really do, but this woman is too strange for me allow into my life.<P>No Trust,<P>I don't think anyone has that many tools or that much time !<P>I guess I should give y'all a medical update while I have an active thread. I went to the new GI doctor on Friday. My records from the old docs still hadn't arrived, (I have learned a good lesson here, I will be asking for copies of all my labs from now on ) he ordered lots of labs done, and I go for a liver and spleen scan on the 23rd. Then we see what the next step needs to be before I start combo therapy. <P>I hope some of you have checked out the link in my sig line. The lady who owns that site gave me permission to use it in my sigs on any board I use. We all want to get the word out about this disease (Hepatitis C) any way we can.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Mike, you’re an [censored].<P>Sorry Deb.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Chris (CA123):<BR><B><P>Sorry Deb.<P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Don't be sorry Chris. I doubt very much he'll see it, he doesn't even read here anymore. Believe me I've said it a time or two myself about this situation! Maybe having you men say I am not insane will help he see I'm not being an irrational female. <P>Well a girl can dream can't she ? <P><p>[This message has been edited by Bozos_ Deb (edited June 13, 2000).]

Deb,<BR>She can't be a fully functioning member of society to trust someone (ok, I'll say it, trust a MAN, no offense meant to nice guys ) she met in a parking lot. Do whatever you can to protect yourself from this woman.<P> <P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10<p>[This message has been edited by Lor (Lor) (edited June 13, 2000).]

Deb,<BR>I have you in my prayers, thanks for writing in my thread.<P>------------------<BR>Lila<BR>Forgiving is hard, Forgetting is harder BUT it is not impossible

Deb,<P>sorry you are going through this yet again.<P>Mike needs to understand that he can be a shinning knight for you and never every other stranger with boobs to come along. Maybe Mike really needs to grow up and understand that FAMILY comes FIRST!!!!!!<P>I will pray for you that she never calls again... but more improtant that Mike gets a clue that he is hurting you.

Lor, what worries me is that she from what she said , has a police record for burgulery. According to her, when her h left her, she went to where he was staying and kicked the door in. It would seem to me if that were the case she would have been charge with breaking and entering, or disturbing the peace. I don't know if that is true or not, but it's what she claims.<P>Lila, <P>Thanks for the prayers. I need them ! <P>Paha,<P>It just gets stranger and stranger, I thought he got it the first time and then when she calls he doesn't ask her not to. <BR>This just has to stop.

BD, sorry to be so negative but I have this question that I want to ask you. Do you think it is possible that they actually met before and they planned this just so that she can start calling the house and then she will be a part of both of your lives with you not knowing a thing. Sorry if it sounds ridiculous, but it is pretty hard to believe that a woman would start calling a married man she just met AND MET his wife too. That sounds alittle too out their for me to understand. Something just doesn't sound right here.

trying2,<P>Honey, believe me, I have thought of that, and even brought it up to him.<P>He denies it, big time.<P>I know it's wierd, that's why it's so upsetting to me.<P>Mike is 6 foot tall, weighs about 220, has hair past his shoulder blades and a long beard. He's harmless, but I find it strange a woman woman would make a point of letting him know she lived alone when she doesn't know him from Adams off ox ! One of my son's friends said "You're dad looks like a serial killer, only he's nicer" <P>Mike is a nice guy in his way, but if I didn't know him I'd darn sure not walk up to him the first time I laid eyes on him in a parking lot at night and tell him my h had left me and I was so alone.<P>Things that make you go Hmmmmmm.

I agree w/TT4G, there's something not right here. Things don't add up.<P>I know because what I've been thru I have more of a suspicious nature than the average Bear, but I really think this situtation as it's been represented is suspect.<P>Keep your guard up, Deb. Be loving but keep your guard up.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Jo<P>Josie_Res@Hotmail.com<P>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak that will snap in the wind"

Jo,<P>It's up, I want to believe him , I really do, but it's hard.<P>Sometimes I think love stinks !<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Deb, that is just too weird. It's bad enough to worry about your marriage and being vulnerable. I think you have more to worry about than that! I'd be worried that this woman is some sort of scam artist. They're the worst kind of criminals. Do NOT let that person in your house!!! Do you have a burglar alarm? Maybe my old neighborhood watch days are conjuring up now-distant memories, but your marriage is just one of many reasons to be very wary of this person!! <P>You said this woman already has a criminal record. Ask your H to think about these two things: <BR>1. Let's say this woman is truly in a bad situation. People usually turn to their best friend when faced with a situation like that. Your H is a stranger to this woman. What does it say about this woman when her best friend is a stranger? <P>2. The possibility is very real that this woman is not as alone as she appears. She may be part of a network of crime. For the safety of you and your family, the contact with this woman should cease!!! Can your husband say Salvation Army?<P>

lonesome heart,<P>Believe me, I worry about that too !<P>We don't have an alarm, we live in an apartment and I spend a lot of time alone at night, the men ( My h, son, and h's uncle work at night a lot) so I am concerned , he even told her where we live and the apt. #.