I have stayed away for a little while and the main reason has been that my H has appeared to come around. Or starting to. However, right now both of our jobs are very crazy. He has been working a lot of hours, traveling and I leave for my business trip Sunday. We have spent very little time this week together. I may just be nervous about all of this, we are in counseling and that seems to be going well. I just see that this past week is exactly where we were last fall when he was having he EA. Working a lot of hours, trips, it is different, meaning, when I call he either answers or calls me back soon after I leave a message. But none the less, I thought last fall we were both just caught up in our jobs and it would pass...and here we are again...it just feels like the exact same scene. We haven't had a chance to talk he is never home I am just afraid that if I don't say something that he is going to think this is OK again. He also tells me that he is really screwed up right now and that he expects nothing from me. I just don't know if I am being paranoid or if the stress of my job and the long hours again are just making a mountain out of a mole hill. Basically, I don't think (??) he is still carrying on with anyone (the OW works with him) but I do have expectations...how do you get past this stage...or is it a stage...