I post on another message board, on of the women there started a thread about secrets you can only share a little of.<P>The another female ahem, person posted behind her that she was involed with a man who she met on line, but couldn't say who because he was married. That alone was enough to raise my temparatue, but when she added "wives where are you when your husband are on line ? " drove me over the edge !<P>I try not to flame much and I think I kept my post reasonablely clean. I let her know most wives were trying to get his attention, begging for just a little on the attention he gave ow so freely. Then I directed her to the boards at gloryb.com , where she can brag and make insulting remarks about wives all blasted day long. <P>I am still just so angry I could chew nails and make bullets of them. People have no shame, and to blame the person who will be hurt the most by this was just the last straw for me ! Aaaaarrrrgggggghhhhhhh !<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

just keep remembering KARMA, she will get her's in the end, and she is hurting herself too. Just to blinded or too young right now to see it.

Deb,<P>Where were the wives? Well, I trusted my "H"! Never thought he would do such a thing but now he says I never trusted him in our marriage anyways! My mother always told me to keep your eyes wide open before you married em and half shut after you marry em. Ah hem.... Now I think they should always just be wide open!<P>But they will get what is coming to them, a lot of empty relationships. Some might wake up before it is to late but others will hold on to there pride and go down with the ship!<P>I now look at it like I have been on the Titanic for the past year but you can call me the "Unsinkable Molly Brown" because I am not going down with the ship! I can tread water and I can swim to shore and shore is with in sight!<P>------------------<BR>Lila<BR>Forgiving is hard, Forgetting is harder BUT it is not impossible

Deb<BR>Can I vent with You? And would you please let me at her?<P>Argghhhhh!<BR>So we wives are supposed to stand over our H's with Butterfy's frying pan 24 hours a day just in case they do something? They don't have a responsibity to the marraige? It's the wife's reponsibility to oversee their activities? This is a relationship?<P>Sorry girl! I was just thinking last night about the years of respect I gave H. The freedom he had while I was raising our children. Kicking myself for believing that he was deserving of respect and trust all those years.<P>Then these little tramps get their claws in, blame it on the wife! Well I wonder if this little tramp has any responsibilities besides self gratification. The bimbo sure didn't. <BR>Bah humbug!!!!<BR>Maybe the wives are busy taking care of the family while the H is playing. It has been known to happen!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>Maybe the wives are busy taking care of the family while the H is playing. It has been known to happen! [/B]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You got that right, wasstubborn!! That's exactly what I was doing...raising 4 daughters without his help, while he played...having a "few" beers for hours after work, playing softball, doing his own thing, hooking up with bimbos on the net, downloading porno, and then the OW.<P>Did I try? Yes. For years. And then I gave up and made a life of my own with my girls. He was never involved, unless he got something from it.<P>A "raspberry" to these bimbos, who think we W's sit around and watch soap operas and eat chocolate all day. And as Deb said, there's the KARMA. I'd hate to be in their shoes.<P>2sad<BR>waiting for her own Karma to bring the good stuff she gave away.<P>

Sorry, that wasn't Deb about Karma, it was trying2_4give. Venting muddles my mind. <P>2sad

2sad<BR>I know that story far too well. I guess it's been bothering me a bit lately and Deb's post just made it explode.<P>Tell me there really is KARMA. Some days I really need to believe that what goes around comes around. Both ways. Today is one of those days. <P>Today I would like to help it come around!<P>Putting my nasty little tongue back in it's place now.

[QUOTE<BR>Tell me there really is KARMA. Some days I really need to believe that what goes around comes around. Both ways. Today is one of those days. <P>Today I would like to help it come around!<P>Putting my nasty little tongue back in it's place now.[/B][/QUOTE]<P>wasstubborn,<P>I have to laugh. My devious, creative mind hs come up with numerous ways of helping Karma. I'm a Gemini, but my tongue has the sting of a Scorpio (scorpion). That's the reason I'm a lousy Plan Aer. "sigh"<P>But yes, there is Karma. We just don't have the control over the when and how that we'd like. It will happen, just not on our time schedule. H's is that I'll be filing for a divorce and he'll lose his "things" that matter the most. I'm not doing it for revenge, but to save myself and my kids. OW's is that, when all this is done, H won't have the money I know he's telling her he'll have. Real pity. "evil grin" These are the things I have to remind myself, when the sadness overwhelms me, and I think I can't go through with this. But I have to, because I know that, even if he left her and came back, he'll never work on our marriage. I'll have to fix it. No thanks. I want to respect myself again.<P>2sad<BR>venting again "sigh"

Ladies, I don't know about Karma, but I do believe in what goes around comes around, and as you sow so shall you reap and if you sow the wind you reap the whirl wind. Some of you might remember what happened to ow # the Wildebeast, for those who don't I will share.<P>She left my h after living with him 1 1/2 years She left him for his best friend. She lived with the friend for 7 years, cheating all the while. Then friend made a big mistake he married her ! They were married for 3 years, the because she is weird , sick, twisted and depraved, she invited a friend of hers a young attractive woman, to join her and her h for a threesome. Wildebeast hoped for a little something to happen between her and her friend. Her friend didn't want any part of that, but was willing to let wildebeast's h do certian sexual things to her.<P>Guess what ? Wildebeast's h and her friend developed feelings for each other, her friend left her live in bf, and moved in with wildebeast and her h.<P>What happened next will shock you <BR>Wildebeasts h told her he was in love with her friend and that while wildebeast could keep living in the house he and the friend were no going to be a couple and wildebeast couldn't play with them anymore.<P>The best part of this was when wildebeast called me crying ! She said "Now I know how you felt" I told her, no you don't, I never invited you into my bed to have sex with my h. <P>She got hers, and I got to see it, and she got worse than I did in a way as she wasn't my friend when she got with Mike, I had never seen her before in my life, but it was a friend who did her and it was her own fault too! <BR> <BR>So boys and girls that is Auntie Debs story for you for today I hope you liked it. <P><BR> <P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Thanks for the story with a lesson Auntie Deb!<P>Moral of this Story: there are many but I like .... "It Sucks to be a Wildebeast (aka Tramp)"<P> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <P>------------------<BR>Jo<P>Josie_Res@Hotmail.com<P>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak that will snap in the wind"

Wow Deb,<P>What a story if that is not the evidence for KARMA, I do not know what is.<P>I wish you the best, Deb.<P>Peace,<P>Nicole

So Auntie Deb...do I get a story with an ending like that?<BR>The only story I have is Peter Pan in Never Never land with Moronbelle.<P>Sorry ladies. Must be the full moon coming. I feel this need for either closure or justice. This is an emotional need?

Yes Wassi dear. You might have to wait a while, it took almost 11 years after the end of Mike and wildebeast's affair for me to see it. But Moronbelle's day will come too.<P>

Deb,<BR> About this Karma thing,I have story I told on another post.Here it is:<P> Once Upon A Time,there....OOPS,WRONG STORY!<BR> OK,a couple of years ago,down at work,we got a new superviser.About 41,married with 4 kids.Wasn't too long,he started an affair with a 27yr-old shop employee.She was also married with a couple of kids.<BR> They tried to keep it secret,but you know how these things get around.Management frowns on these things,especially when a supervisor gets involved with a shop person.<BR> Well,someone from the shop calls his W,and her H.The [censored] hits the fan!W files for divorce,H files for divorce.The whole thing blows out in the open in the shop,and talk is flying.<BR> To make a long story short,superviser loses his W,his big house,his 4 kids,his management job,gets moved out of our building into a warehouse job,with lower pay.Now he's paying big bucks for child support.<BR> Oh,he lost his girlfriend,too,who just liked his position of power.She,by the way,ended up divorced,and lost her job because of poor attendance.<P> NOW,THAT'S KARMA!!!<P> --Murph

My H's OW left her H for another man...don't know what happened to him, but she hooked up with my H...and during one of their breakups, the last breakup as it turns out, she turned to H's housemate. My only solace in the karma thing is the housemate is one of those big heavy sweat-drops-flying perspirers. It isn't quite enough, but I trust that she has more coming to her. Balding hair loss and a mysterious facial rash are a thought...

lol. i was pleased to see my H's OW has turned into a fat drunk with poor taste in leisure clothing (last i saw her-at first discovery 2 years ago- she was an incredibly well-put together career woman, thin and "blond" and gorgeous), whereas last week she was "golfing" with H in a big white t-shirt ballooning over her at least 5'3", 160 pound frame. gee, too bad her previous, speed-dealing boyfriend was sent to prison, i guess the methamphetamine kept her thin!!!<BR>and now that i have my pre-pregnancy figure back, H is desparate for me. hahahahahahahaha.<P>------------------<BR><A HREF="http://www.go.to/wcu" TARGET=_blank>loveWASblind</A>

You know, I have to ask, What was OP doing playing with a MARRIED man????????? What ever happened to the sanctity of marriage?????? Why is is nasty people think marriage doesn't mean a thing and that they can just screw around with anyone? <BR>Well, I was there, watching OW when she moved in on my H. She pretended to be my best friend and I was blind to something that I could see happening right in front of my face. What a jerk I was! <BR>Anyhow, now I will never trust as I once did.........stupid of me to have allowed her to get as far as she did with him.......

Deb,<P>I hope by you saying something it gave that woman something to think about. I could never understand Other People. Why do they think that the Wayward Spouce is not lying to them as well. They are lying to the Spouce that they have promised to love, honour, and cherish...so why would they not also lie to the person they are cheating with?<P>Do they not see that. One of the OW Tony said I was a roommate. Come one? How many guys have female roommates? She believed him. <P>Wassy -- I do hope you are feeling better? I saw the fool moon last night it looked really nice. <P>Is your H any better? I have been praying that he becomes the man you need.