Well, today I started the "An Affair of the MInd" book and so far it is very good. What she went through was horrible. At least with my husband's addiction it hasn't progressed as far as her husband's did and I haven't ended up in a clinic getting an AIDS test. Praise God! This book will be hard for me to read because it is making me relive the pain I was trying to cover up.<P>My husband has asked me out for a date for Friday night. After thinking about it and praying about it I decided to go. No strings, no promises - no saying 'come back home'. Just a date. I do want this marriage to work. We both have lot of things to work out and it may take a long time but we both want to make it work. One baby step at a time. <P>I may be setting myself up for more heartache, but I do still love him and we do have a son together so I think I will risk it one more time. Slowly. No rushing. One day at a time.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by husbandpornaddict:<BR><B>I may be setting myself up for more heartache, but I do still love him and we do have a son together so I think I will risk it one more time. Slowly. No rushing. One day at a time.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I think that is a great attitude. I wish you luck. May your trust pay off.

Hi hpa,<P>I think a date is a wonderful idea. My H and I have gone on one (so far) and it was just the greatest night. I felt like a goofy teenager getting ready for it...and needed a lot of help from MB posters that day because I was so nervous.<P>The advice I got was wonderful. Just keep it light, don't get into anything heavy. You will have plenty of time to address your problems at a later date, but try to remember what it was like when you were dating your H and go with it.<P>You know, chances are there will be more heartache along the road. I knew that from the start, that I would cry a lot of tears and be sad a lot, but I allow myself to do that and always feel better after. These addicitions are very tough, as you know, and the hardest thing to realize is you can't control how long it will take your H to beat this. It has to be at his own pace and his own time. Don't try to "teach" him. The best thing you can do is be patient and pray.<BR>Have a wonderful time Friday. I'm sure you'll sparkle.<BR>allison