At first glance you might wonder why this is posted at MB. But please read on & if you can, I need some support...<P>In 1998 I was hurt at work & went to a Dr who filed workmans comp. 1999 credit burea threatened to sue me if I didn't pay bill. My h & I went to Dr & refiled paperwork. OK. Never heard from either again until today. Credit bureau threatening me if I don't pay over $400 by July 6, they'll sue. I can't get ahold of anybody at either place, the time for filing WC is 2 years, & is a lawyer going to help?<P>But why I'm asking you all for help is because prior to my h's ema I had a 3 yr. problem w/ depression. Partly why he had ema. I've always had a problem dealing w/ things once they get too far, but when I'm depressed I can't rationalize, & dump everything on him to do it alone. Last month or so I've been having problems w/ depression again. Anxiety, screaming over any little thing, can't laugh & joke (h has mentioned this repeatedly, so it's bothering him), gaining weight, you name it, & I'm a depression poster child. I'm upset over this bill, and was already depressed. I started taking St. John's Wort again, but it takes 30 days to take affect.<BR>The depressed part of me says "you're this way & he's going to do IT again!!!", and great, I've added paranoia to the list.<P>H has to work tonite, & I'm afraid I'm going to meet him at the door screaming or something, and I need some help, opinions, prayers, ANYTHING!!!

Kallie, you came to the right place. It is great that you recognize a lot of what is happening. <P>Even though you are on an antidepression med....I still suggest you read ( and have your H read) all the info on this board. <P>Since you seem to be able to find your own triggers for depression....and it is NOT your H....you both can fill out an EN questionairre and try, even during this time to meet your most important emotional needs.<P>Are you seeing a counselor???? Have you and your H seen one together????<P>You might even want to go to the local library and find a book on living with depression...I know that in my H's case...depression is a factor ( although he iwll not admit it). I went to the library and found a wealth of information on depression.....understanding it and living with a person who suffers from it!!!<P><BR>I'm glad you found us...and please be patient with us, since it is a weekend 9and a holiday weekend at that) you may not get all of the great advice of the veterans out there....<P>Have faith that you can withstand this.. Awareness is the first step!!!

Kallie,<P>Get on the internet and find out what you can about Workman's Comp laws. Since you were hurt at work, your employer may be liable for the bill. <P>I wouldn't think it would be the credit bureau but rather a collection agency that is sending you the threatening letter. Call them on Monday and let them know about the efforts you are taking to clear the matter up. Ask them for an address where you can send correspondence explaining the problem & the steps you are taking to rectify it.<P>Call the employer and see why they never paid the bill. <P>If you feel you are getting nowhere fast, then consult an attorney.<P>Lastly, if you feel you are slipping into depression, see a doctor right away. You may need prescription meds.<P>Good luck.

Thank you everyone. My h is home now & he's been wonderful. I'll update later.

I work in the medical profession and have a lot of dealings with workmans comp. Fisrt you need to bypass your employer, get thename of your company comp carrier and contact them yourself. You should have your own case manager who should be handling your case. Second, get copies of all paperwork from physcian's office related to your case that shows claims were filed. The MD's office may have their own comp secretary--ours does. Go directly to her if possible. Nexp contact atty who deals strictly in workman's comp. Have all your paperwork in hand to save time. Let the atty deal with credit bureau. He will have more authority with them than you at this point. Hope this helps.

Kallie-<P>May I suggest you keep detail of every single phone call, mail or anything that pertains to this situation so that you have proof when and if needed.<P>Also-I am no druggie or anything but due to my H's affair I had to get something or bust. My doctor put me on Paxil. I like it a lot. The only downside is that it leaves me feeling very dry mouthed but not as bad now as in the beginning. It has truly been a godsend for my situation. Maybe it would help you. <P>Hang in there girl. I have always been a very high stress person and I have now come to terms with whatever will be will be. I try and fix things that need fixed but dwelling on it never helped a bit so I have tried to quit the owrrying and hand it to God to guide me through. After all-there will always be something to deal with in life. Why sweat it if you can make yourself stop?<P>Best wishes!!!<P><P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<BR>"Loyalty Is A Two Way Street"<BR>