I've always been in tune to my dreams...as a kid I had night terrors and very vivid dreams. I have gone through my life paying attn to them because of situations like this; a few years back I began dreaming about an old close friend that I hadn't seen or talked to in about 10 years..... and then found out about a crisis in his life!!<P>Anyway, when this situation first began with H...in fact probably prior to...I began having dreams of not being able to get to H....like I was crossing through a forest with my kids and H was somewhere through the thicket...we could never get to him.<P>When I found out about the EA I kept having dreams with the two of them in it and OP was always very assured, cocky, mean!!! H was always distant!!!! One dream I followed him on the boardwalk at the beach and he went into a store and bought a CD for me and a very feminine skirt and blouse for OP!!!<P>Now, my dreams are getting better..H is in them and he and I have been talking...not so distant!!!! Last night I dreamt that he was affectionate to me...like he was prior to the "trip" with OP...and in last night's dream OP was very insecure...looked tired....afraid, mopey!!!<P>Wishful thinking?????????

I'll give it a shot. I know you can't put your dreams on instant replay, but I'm wondering about details of the forest and the thicket. I see two scenarios -- you know he's out there, but you can't see him. I think that would mean that he can see you and hear you, but he's remaining silent and making it difficult for you to find him. The other scenario is that you <I>can</I> see him, in which case I'd envision him beating a trail through the thicket in front of you as you follow, but the distance is growing between you. <P>Now for the beach dream... I would say that you are the one who is music to his ears, whereas the OW is nothing more than outer trappings. If your position in both dreams is "following," I would consider that significant. You're getting stronger by being here and becoming the best person you can be. Eventually, he'll be the one who follows you into the land of happy marriage and it'll be the OW stuck in a thicket of brambleberries all by herself. <P>

I really like your interpretation. ANd I hadn't focused on me following my H!!!! Maybe that's why it felt right to back away into plan b.<P>As you can see from my other posts..he now is seeing the kids all the time and asking them about me!!!

You hang in there TT. Keep a positive attitude and your kids will have good things to report to your H. Your dream about the OW being tired, afraid and mopey may have been wishful thinking, or it may be happening in real life. In either case, they are qualities that you must keep out of your own life. You have your own life to live with or without your H. Make each day as good as it can possibly be. I want to say I'm rootin' for ya, but in case there's Australians on this board, I'd better say I'm cheering for you. :-)

I have not dreamt too often about my husband with the exception of two very nightmarish kinds of dreams (bad things happened, but to the slug, not to me or husband). However, after my recent experiences with him calling me all the time, I had a dream about him.<P>I don't remember any of the details except that we were together, enjoying being with each other (nothing sexual) and that the general feeling throughout the dream was me wondering WHY he cannot see that if he still cares this much for me our marriage could be wonderful ...<P>Dreams are probably more about our subconscious bringing out things we have not consciously considered or noticed than they are prophetic. I believe that some can have prophetic dreams, though...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I can see clearly now,<BR>the rain is gone ...