My husband has been living with ow for 3 months and shows no signs of missing me at all. Can the book "Surving an Affair" help me or would Love Busters be better.

Hi, Annie.<P>Start with SAA. It's a great way for you to understand more and it WILL give you some strength.<P>Both books are good.<P>You doing ok? I was there, too, remember, all is not lost.<P>Love and prayers,<P>Lori

Thanks lori<P>I am doing okay sometimes and awful at others. He is talking about introducing the kids to OW and the kids don't want it. He is so sure that he wants to marry this woman that I really am a bit disheartened. I will try to stay positive.<P>Thanks again<P>Annie

Hi annie,<P>Gotta agree with Lori (big surprise ). I didn't really "get it" until I read SAA. It gives you so much more info than coming here and reading the concepts.<P>Hmmm, think I'll dig it out and read it again today, I could use a tune up.<P>allison

SAA is truly a life saver! Helped me understand many of the things that my H was telling me about his A that I thought were totally repulsive until I realized that they were "normal".

Annie H<P>Well I haven't read any of your other posts but it sounds like to me that you are in a very similiar situation as me. My h left me and our two kids and has been living with OW for over 5 months now. He too shows no signs of wanting to come back. He is so certain that he made the right decision. <P>He also wants to introduce the kids to OW. Except,my kids already know otherwoman and do not like her one bit. <P>I don't know the rest of your story but I can totally understand everything you are feeling these days. I never thought in life I could go thru something this hurtful except perhaps something awful happening to one of my kids. <P>To have the person you love most do these terrible things to you is so hurtful.<P>I went and got SAA and I read it often. IT is helpful.<P>Please let me know if there is anything Else I can do to help you.