What difference a day came make<P><BR>WARNING READ THIS AT YOU OWN RISK<P>I recieved a phone call from a mutual friend today and spoke to me what the B***** has been saying. Ive been stewing over this for hours and need to get it off my chest.<P>I am soooooooooo sick of the bad mouthing the lies the deception the using of my children to get a me. Well those poisned arrows certainly found its mark through my shield.<P>The f****** ***** has been spreeding more of lies and it appears the kids know. They believe the lying ***** it seems. Just to cover what she has done and is doing. I want revenge soooooo much I can taste it. The biggest regret was ever doing was to speak to the OM the one who was doing it to my W and didnt't want to "jeopardize" his marriage. Well F*** you buddy what the hell have you done to mine. Certainly hasn't made it great. <P>When I spoke to him I told him I was a copper (law enforcement officer) which was true, and worked undercover for 12 months also true. I wanted to put the wind up this bus**** and told him thats its amazing what they can do with mobile phones and how easy it was to bug them(not true) well he didnt know. Well now the W has been telling my kids and others that have found out that Im paranoid and dont trust me and use the phone because its buged. Thats really hurts when she involves my kids when she promised that she didnt want things to get nasty over our problems and especially involve the kids and friends. How blooddy noble of her. When she can do the exact opposite. <P>Can I ring his wife and tell her what the mongrel has been doing behind her back. I promised I wouldn't. He can't keep any of his<BR>as it seems<P>Why is that they can sh** on me and I have to take it and be Mr nice guy well Im sick of it all. As far as I am concerned they get whats coming to them.<P>She has even said that when I go to counselling I must be seeing someone or doing it with her, she old enough to me my mother, and why does he need to go to the counsellor so often. Well my dear you have f***** up my life. Isnt that what you wanted or are so blind that you cant see it through those rose coloured glasses.<P>The W still hasnt said anything to me what she has done and why.<P>I need to get rid of this baggage before next week.<P>Im sorry for the language but its the only way I can express myself at the moment. I havent felt like swearing this mich since I was 15. Such a long time age. Is so easy when you want to remember.<P>I will now go outside and yell at the trees.<BR>That will make it feel better.<P>T<P>[This message has been edited by timtam (edited July 13, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by timtam (edited July 13, 2000).]

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Hey Timtam,<P>Bet those trees have wilted by now! Whew! <P>You have every right in the world to use whatever language you want right now. You are good and mad, and I don't blame you. This kind of anger can really make you sick if you keep it in.<P>Yep, your wife is being all of the things you called her. Um, did you call her these things to her face, or on the phone? Just wondering if she knows how upset you are. Have you decided if you're going to call OMW? I don't think that's a very good idea, especially when you're this mad. Let him (OM) be the one to crush her, not you. Sounds like he can do it better anyway. Gotta feel kinda sorry for her.<P>You need to first and foremost deal with your kids and let them know their phones are not bugged and that you are not paranoid. I guess they must know about OM, which sucks, and they will see in the long run which of you is to be believed and relied on.<P>After you finish yelling at the trees try to reason this thing out. Your wife is foggy as he!! right now and there is nothing you can do about that. You've got to be the adult here. When you're feeling more sane you'll realize that and get back on it.<P>As usual, I am ranting. Sorry Timtam. You are a great friend here at MB, and I appreciate the replies to my posts you have taken the time to write. <P>You'll be ok. You've kept your sense of humor after all, and that's a great sign.<P>allison

Timtam,<BR>If you want to save your marriage, you must vent here. If you vent to her like this, you will truly drive her away.<P>I called my now x a whore because she was living with om and "they" were going to pick up our son at his grandmothers(x's mother). I didn't/don't want my kids exposed to this life style.<P>My x still throws what I said about her in my face. She has forgotten what she has said about me and also what she has said about her om when we tried to reconcile. I did appologize, but she has never for anything.<P>You have to keep Plan Aing. Be truthful with your kids, but they don't need to know all the details. NO matter what your w has done to you, she is still the kids mother and they will protect her no matter what.<P>My kids, especially my son gets mad at me when I confront my x on something stupid she has done with the kids. So I now do not allow myself to be angry with x when the kids are present.<P>X called Mon nite and was yelling at me, and I did not reply. My s was aware of x yelling at me, but he did not hear me.<P>When our wayward spouse serve us s**t sandwiches, make sure we bring plenty of napkins!<P>Bob

Thanks for the replies<P>I wasnt going to post this and hit the submit before I realised. I just needed to vent and scream and yell and everything else.<P>No I havent called her these names and I try soooo very hard not to involve the children. I learnt that one very quickly after an argie with them., it got back to W and she was glotting after that,said I lost it.<P>No I dont intend to call the other OMW but I wish she knew.<P>I am trying soooo hard not to create LB's and I think up until now I have done OK.<P>I am not usually like this when I have had enough I blow.<P>When I fell like this my first temtation is pick up the phone, now I walk outside count to whatever when I calm down I feel a lot better and think of all the fun times we as a family have had in the past.<P>The worst I have ever called her was a b****.<P>Have to keep feeling positive for next week as I dont want to blow this first opportunity in months to talk to her.<P>I am getting sick of the getting very little responses from all those I love. It appears as though they would prefer not to talk to me in case they same something they shouldnt.<P>I going out for a BBQ tonight to try and forget what is happening. The only thing is that they dont know what is going on and they will ask wheres W and of course Ill make some bull**** story again.<P>Thats enough for now<P>lol <P>T<BR><p>[This message has been edited by timtam (edited July 14, 2000).]