Anyone who has read "a sticky one" in the Resolving Conflict forum will know the background on this situation.<P>My W is now talking divorce!! I get the feeling it is almost a done deal in her mind. She has recently recanted her call for us to seperate but I still get the feeling that the other shoe has yet to drop(it's not making me feel to good that I tried her cell phone at 1am tonight and there was no answer). <P>She's studying, with the professor, in western New York state for the summer. I offered to come up ASAP and visit for a while. She responded with "...I feel no great desire to see you...sorry if that hurts your feelings...I should not have brought up divorce...wish I hadn't said that...". <P>I want to work any of our problems out and do not want to give up our marriage. Here are my most likely choices:<P>1. The past year has been hard on my career due to a repetitive strain injury to my hand and past bad choices. However, I am now at the beginning of an up swing. My injury is healing, allowing more concentration on my performance skills and I've been given a second chance by some of the powers that be. This has lead to a general brightening of my mood. I could throw myself into this second chance regardless of the direction of our marriage. <P>2. I give up my dream of orchestral performance and enter another field. All the problems of being in the same field will end and many short-term issues will be resolved. However, my W has expressed that she may not want to be tied down to anyone at this time in her life, she feels confused(this was recanted a day later). The marriage may end and I will have missed my second chance forever.<P>Other info on this roller-coaster from hell is in the Resolving Conflict forum under "Help!!!!" and "a sticky one". <P>Any advice?<p>[This message has been edited by anncicero2 (edited July 23, 2000).]
