Well, things are still looking up. H and I spent last weekend together - just the two of us. We had lots of fun. OW was out of town so he was able to devote his time to us. FIL told me something that has left me with more hope (although I continue to wait and see when the fog rolls in again). FIL and H spoke over the weekend and FIL told him how he felt about all of this. H told him he didn't think it was going to last much longer. When FIL told me I was heartbroken. FIL was really surprised as to why. When I told him it sounded like H was unsure of us FIL reassured me they were talking about the OW. I was very surprised and asked him if he could be mistaken. NOPE! They were specifically talking about her. (OMG!) So, I'm keeping my chin up. Went out with H for lunch on Tuesday and he stayed at home on Tuesday night (yes, we stayed in the same bed, again). We're going out as a family on Saturday - his idea. We continue to talk every day at least 3 times/day. Of course, the problem is that he continues to live with her. <P>I know things sound good but I am feeling very frustrated. It's like everything is working out too well and now I just want him to take that next step and come home. It's just so frustrating! We make the time to be together. We have fun when we are together and yet, most mornings I wake up alone. I don't know, maybe this morning it just really started getting to me. I must have dreamed I was with him. Of course, when I woke up his side of the bed was empty.<P>I know. Patience, patience, patience. It's tough. I see so many good things and I want to rush things. I know I can't. I'm just a little frustrated right now.<P><P>------------------<BR>Molli<P>Find your strength within!

Stay positive, but don't ever make judgement on what someone else tells you. That can lead to trouble.<P>Keep your eyes and ears open. Guard up and keep depositing those love points.<P>KIM that FIL is exactly that HIS Father.<P>Hope this helps.<P>------------------<BR>What does not kill you, will only make you stronger!

Molli, you do want to hold your chip up -- and must ask why are you allowing him to go between you and OW ? If you went out as a family the other night --- then why are you not a family 24/7? Know I have room to talk, however, would not be a very happy camper with such arrangement. However, should I have reached that point --- do not know what I would have done as well ! Good Luck, and pray daily -- She hears ALL prayers

Keep your chin up. Patience is hard. All I want is to have my H back with my 11 month old and I. Patience Patience.<P>Good Luck

Hi Molli:<P>Well, things are going great aren't they. You are were so many of us want to be...on the treshold of his returning...and I believe he will.<P>But you want it all to be over...that's understandable...it's been a long haul...and those little thoughts keep running around in your head...will he or won't he...and until he does you'll never be sure. As usual it's the waiting that the hardest.<P>Now might be a good time to begin preparation for his return and your recovery...you know that's going to be the next battle...start getting prepared.<BR>You might start reading the recovery posts to see what some of the potential problems are. <P>Or see if anyone needs advise here since you apparently have had some success at this.<P>Do anything but sit around and wait...then when it does happen you'll be surprise.<P>Buffy<P>

Molli -<P>Keep your chin up! Your story is very inspiring to me. It never ceases to amaze me - the courage and strength of the Betrayed Spouses on this board. I think you all are truly wonderful. Some of the things I've read on this board have really inspired me to continue working on my marriage. When I may doubt that my H still loves me - even after my A - I come on here and realize that that you can still love someone even after they betray your trust. I'd just like to take this time to thank all of you. For having hope, and to continue to be a beacon to us who are lost. Take care and God Bless you all.

Thanks everybody! I was having a down day and this helped to get it out. Things are much better.<P>Tornapart - <P>I am remaining positive. I find that I don't go through as dramatic dips on this rollercoaster. It definitely makes it easier to stay upbeat and to keep a smile on my face. It gives me some hope what my FIL said but I have remained on my guard. You never know if and when everything will change. I keep that in mind and just live my life one day at a time. Thanks for the post!<P>Rhmama - <P>It's tough doing what I'm doing. H stays with the OW most of the time. I live with it but not happily. To tell him to make a choice right now feels like I would be going into Plan B and I'm just not ready for that. H and I are getting along and I like the fact we're getting to know each other again. I have made comments from time to time about my dislike of their relationship but I never make a issue of it. I say it and it's done. Never in a million years would I have imagined to be where I am right now. I would never want to be here again. But here I am and I'm doing my best to better my relationship with my H. Only time will tell if I ever go to Plan B. I pray it won't happen and that we will be together again soon.<P>Tigger - <P>My thoughts are with you and your child. Chin up yourself. Stay positive and strong for yourself and your child. <P>Buffy - <P>Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. Although H and I seem closer than ever to reconciliation I will remain realistic knowing that at any moment things could change. I will begin looking at the recovery board to see what could be instore for me and my H. As far as posting to others, it's wierd. Until you mentioned it I never considered posting as someone who has been there. Yet I have and I do have a lot to offer others. Thank you for reminding me. I will also continue living my life as I have the past few months. I refuse to sit here and wait. That's when my mind starts getting me in trouble with my feelings. Thanks again for the words of encouragement.<P>SKM - <P>Thank you! I do love my H more than ever. I never thought I could be the type of person to forgive but I found I was a lot stronger than I gave myself credit for. Trust your H's love for you. This is probably the toughest thing a couple can go through and there can be a wonderful life for the two of you together afterwards. My prayers are with you!<P><BR>Thank you, everyone!!<P><P>------------------<BR>Molli<P>Find your strength within!