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Fantasies
#878203 07/26/00 09:49 PM
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I m not too sure if this is the right forum, but for lack of a more appropriate forum, I am writing here. I guess its reaching the right audience though.<P>I am not sure if this is right. Well, it doesn't seem to me and that worries me. Everytime we make out, I end up fantasizing my way to the end. Possible reasons could be lack of stamina and/or impatience, and I am working on that. Other reasons could be addiction to porn in the past. This is where my confusion sets in. A set of people here will tell me that porn is bad. But whats the reason for the huge porn industry - internet, hotels, prostitution - obviously there is a big demand for it - dont tell me its just some insane bunch of people. If its an emotional need, then why deny it ?
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david..<P>I wonder if it is because porn is straight fantasy. All fantasies come to a screeching halt eventually. that is why all of us are here.<P>I do not believe that a (natural) woman could compete with a woman of fantasy.<P>With my affair.. when we first began relations again.. i could not help but to "fantasize" and it wasn't fair. so all initmacy stopped. It just isn't right to do that to someone.. wish they were someone else.<P>Porn addiction is very hard to break. My brother inlaw strugggles with it daily. If not forhis wife and counsleing he would still be in it.<P>Sorry I do not know much about porn addiction bbut i hope i helped a bit.<P>mercy
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i dont think I am addicted to porn anymore. Only once have I visited a porn site in the past 6 months. <P>but still whenever we make love, we never have eye-contact, we hardly talk, as a result I end up fantasizing... sometimes its just fantasizing about the two of us... which doesnt feel too bad, but sometimes its her ex-bf with her and i feel miserable at the end....sometimes its me with just someone (usually a pornmodel seen earlier)...still i dont have very good feeling at the end... those images are etched in my memory and i dont know how to get rid of them.... sometimes the whole process is very agonising....<P>am not sure where our relationship is headed....

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