Hey gang!<P>Long time, no post. It feels good to type on here again.<P>Just wanted to update you on the continuing saga of ceecee!<P>Sbtx and I both signed final divorce papers today. All that's left is the A-ok from the judge (that will happen in no more than 30 days from now).<P>It's really weird, but when my atty called today to tell me stbx had signed the papers, I let out a grin; ya know, one of those from ear to ear. I know it's strange, and I never thought I would have responded that way, but I am SO relieved this nightmare is over.<P>I am happier now than I have ever been in my entire life. I feel so liberated. I tried so desperately to save my marriage, and I honestly believe that if I hadn't tired as hard as I did, I wouldn't feel this way. But, I am walking away knowing I gave it my all; it just wasn't meant to be.<P>I am looking forward to my future; something I was terrifed to look at 19 months ago.<P>My H affair took the breathe out of me, after he told me about it in Feb of 99. I didn't think I could go on with my life. But, each day I was able to cope a little better; get a little stronger; and grow a little deeper.<P>I am here to offer encouragement to those of you who are struggling with this hell. Even though my marriage didn't survive infidelity, I DID!!! I am stronger, wiser, happier and healthier than ever before. You can be too.<P>This was a wake up call to me. A wake up call from God. He showed me, every step of the way, that He knows what He is doing. I placed my faith in Him, and let His work happen in my life.<P>Life is full of situations that we wish we didn't have to deal with. So many times, we wish we could run away or hide our head in the sand. It's what we do with our situations, that make us who we are.<P>A very dear friend of mine told me only a few short days ago, that all it takes to change your world, it to change to way you look at your world. She told me that I can hurt the ones I love, or I can love the ones I hurt. She also told me that I can let my circumstances control what I do, or I can control what I do with my circumstances! It all about what you focus on.<P>I just wanted to share my news with you all. This forum has helped me through that most tormenting time in my life. This is a place I will never forget.<P>I pray that each and every one of you will one day feel the peace, that comes with knowing who you are and who is in control of your life.<P>So, now that I'm liberated, I've got some bras to burn LOL!<P>God's greatests blessing to all of you! I love you all.<P>God Bless,<BR>Cheryl

Cheryl,<P>I'm so glad to hear from you.<P>You've followed the Harley principles...<BR>...and have now become a success story. <P>Bill is right...<BR>...hang out here a while...<BR>...and give others the benefit of you experience.<P>Most who will need it are on the divorcing/divorced forum...<BR>...but everyone can use your well developed wisdom.<P> <P>Your friend...<P>Jim

Thanks for posting this, ceecee!<P>I think folks here often think the only successes are the repaired marriages, but I firmly believe that the successes are the folks that come through the shattering experience stronger and better.<P>Good luck to you in your new life--and try not to catch the forest ablaze with your bra burning !<P>--HBC

Hey Cee Cee,<P>Sorry to hear of the D, but, you sound great. Your M didn't survive, you did.<P>I'm getting close to signing the final paper too. It's coming up on 17 months soon. I'm running out of Plan A steam here.<P>She did give me many chances to fix it last year and I messed them up badly. Now, I am in a good mental possition and she is not interested. Guess it wasn't meant to be.<P>Good to hear from you.<P><P>------------------<BR>"It's not over till we say it's over! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? H*ll no!" Blutto...Animal House 1984<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic

Hey There,<P>Yeah, I drop in to lurk and occasionally post... <P>Nice to see you, and I love what you've written! <P>I hope to be there one day... not yet, soon I hope.<P>I can be reached still at the email you have, please write and I'll give you the new one... I'd love to talk.<P>Sheryl

Hi guys!<P>Sorry it took so long to get back to you. I've just been so busy lately.<P>Jim,<P>You are a dear friend. I am so glad that I have had the opportunity to get to know you and your wisdom.<BR>I have come a long way in 19 months. It finally felt right to "drop the reins". My X has too many problems and just isn't willing to face to truth.<BR>I pray for you, Jim. I'm sorry that your W is still unwilling to listen to the truth. Maybe she just needs to hit the bottom.<BR>Take care of yourself. Remember, whatever happens, YOU are the winner- God is with you!<P>HBC-<P>Hi sweetie! Thanks for the encouraging words. I can finally look at myself and know that I won, even if my marriage didn't survive.<BR>I continue to pray for my X and OW. I believe they are so lost, that prayers and God can only bring them back.<BR>BTW- no forests around here, so I think I'm safe !!<P>Hey Zip!<P>Good to hear from you. Sorry that you will be signing those dreaded papers soon. I know you still love Val and wished and hoped this wouldn't happen. <BR>It's hard to let go, but I just keep remembering that God's timing is so much different than ours. <BR>When I signed my papers, I could imagine God saying, "Cheryl, Your H isn't ready yet, and I can't give him back to you until he is." So, with that I let go and I feel peace.<BR>Keep up the good work in your own life. We never know what tomorrow will bring our way, but I for am, am excited to see!<P>Sheryl,<P>Hi you! Glad you still pop in. You have mail~~~!<P>Love you guys. I'll try and get on more than I have been. I miss you all.<P>God bless,<BR>Cheryl

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ceecee:<BR><B>Hey gang!<P>I am here to offer encouragement to those of you who are struggling with this hell. Even though my marriage didn't survive infidelity, I DID!!! I am stronger, wiser, happier and healthier than ever before. You can be too.<P>This was a wake up call to me. A wake up call from God. He showed me, every step of <BR>Life is full of situations that we wish we didn't have to deal with. So many times, we wish we could run away or hide our head in the sand. It's what we do with our situations, that make us who we are.<P>A very dear friend of mine told me only a few short days ago, that all it takes to change your world, it to change to way you look at your world. She told me that I can hurt the ones I love, or I can love the ones I hurt. She also told me that I can let my circumstances control what I do, or I can control what I do with my circumstances! It all about what you focus on.<P>Cheryl</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Cheryl your words are so true. You have a very WISE friend. I wish my H would listen...<BR>and hear...what so many of you here have to share. <BR>I'm still not sure "where " I am heading, but know I too, will be FINE!!!!<BR>Good Luck<BR>Tyra<P>