I have not seen or spoken to my H in 15 days. This is the longest that we have ever went in our relationship without any contact. <P>My neighbours have told me that he has been around the house several times in the past week while I have been at work. I knew as there was evidence to that effect. I could tell he had walked the dog and filled her water dish. I could tell that he had been in the house by the way the fly screen was left and the dirt from his work boots on the floor but he never touched or took anything. Not even his mail that is still delivered to the house. I do not understand any of it. <P>Has anyone any ideas why he may be doing this.<P>FET

Maybe sadness, reflection. I don't know your situation, under what circumstances that you are separated. I don't know much of your story because I am still a little new here. Maybe he is trying to see if you have a new guy in your life. Maybe he misses you--but he aint gonna let you know that.<P>A lot goes on in another person's mind that we will never know about because they can't or won't tell us for whatever reason. Communication is the most difficult endevour in this world. Men don't tend to express a lot of how they feel--they just "do."<P>I am a country music fan--you heard all those sappy songs?--The one about the guy who ditched his wife and then follows her to work covertly just to see how pretty she looks? (That's Garth Brooks, She's Gonna Make it, He Never Will) and the one about the guy who drives by his old house and spies--"that's my wife, those are my kids, but who's that man?" (That one's Toby Keith.)<P>Anyways, he's probably just checking up on ya.<BR>

Forevertrue:<P>My H is living with OW, but I have needed him to give me a lift home from the office (where we both work together) several times (car's bad) and always wondered why he always had to go into the house to use the bathroom.<P>Finally I figured out he was checking out what was going on in the house...like I was hiding something from him because I didn't invite him into the house.<P>Other times I have seen him driving by the house and not stopping. He lives with OW 20 miles away so it's not on the way home. <P>Yes, they want to do their thing but they don't want us to do ours...crazy isn't it.<P>Buffy