I am in an awful position.<P>The love of my life, my husband just admitted that he slept with a woman who is closely involved in the business he owns with his partners.<P>He swears he knows he made an awful mistake, but absolutely refuse to cut off the business relationship with her because he feels responsibility towards his partners and she is critical to the business success.<P>I do believe that he wants to keep it purely business, but I don't know how I can survive with her as a constant reminder of this awful pain. I think it is too much to ask of me to accept her in his life. <P>I want to work it out, I love him dearly, but I don't know it I can ever feel safe with her working so closely with him.<P>If anyone has any suggestions, please help me!

Surely she is not the ONLY one who can provide this service? Look for a qualified replacement. Even is she's really that good at what she does, their reliance on her makes them vulnerable. They SHOULD look for other options. <P>And her presence makes your marriage vulnerable. If it happened once, it can happen again. Especially if there is any tension at home. Those rose colored glasses go on quickly and start to make other options look good (just look at how many of us say the OW are dogs compared to us!)<P>And why can't you contribute to the business in some invaluable way? Make your presence known there too! Do something to remind him of what an asset you are!<P>I say the OW has to go. She may be valuable to the bottom $$ line, but there is nothing so valuable in life as family, marriage, and commitment. If you have to sacrifice a little for it, so be it. They can regain the financial stability in time. No one is so crucial to a business that they can't be replaced.

Co-workers are a difficult situation. My H's OW is a co-worker, but they don't see each other daily...and their relationship has ended. If he can't get her out of the business, your marriage really depends on your H's wants, behavior and integrity. If you aren't already seeing a counselor, I suggest you do so. Alone if he won't go.<P>Take care<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10