Hi T L,<P>I wanted to respond to your thread. Please do not think I am taking sides here because I am truly not. But I do think anyone is open to havign an affair if the right situation is present.<P>I am the betrayed but I know that when my H was always "working" I was lonely. I love my H with all my heart and then some but I was spending every day without him, just the two little kids and I. I did everything because H worked so much. We have never had babysitters and I didn't go do much with my kids because it was so difficult when they were younger.<P>I ended up gettign a computer and going online. I began to chat with people from all over. Then I became addicted. I felt like they were my link to the "outside". One person I met was very kind, friendly, considerate, charming-the list goes on. LUckily he lives thousands of miles away because it almost got to the point that I had more time with him online than I did with my own H.<P>I never ever thought about an affair. But I did dream of happiness, someone who wanted to talk to me,getting out of a rut (young kids, no sitter, basically no life).<P>Luckily my H did the big naughty before I ever did. It woke me up fast. And while I say now I would never ever have an affair I think there can always be a time where our "normal" being is not present.<P>I found MB-thank GOD-and even here you will ead of ministers, high society people and the like are all having affairs. No one is immune.<P>While your H may truly be saying that to ease his own damage done I will say that I do think any of us can get caught in this unpleasant situation. Although if our spouse does this and we know the pain we may well become a whole lot wiser when confronted with the situation than they were when they became involved.<P>If there is no suffering for someone who has commited adultry then it is my belief that that person isn't "real".<P>I wish you the best-and will pray for you
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