I turned 40...days from a year ago...however last year I was busy recovering...still am I guess. Trying to rebuild or add on, to our marriage for sure. Hey how about a sky light for my H's head?<P>Anyway with family gone I am cleaning up a storm.<P>I tend to be a bit of a pack rat...and I am confronting that nicely, thank you.<P>I just found myself almost gleefully pitching all of my leather pumps and suits.<P>I pretty much quit my job and have decided to pursue a dream of mine, but most of all enjoy and support my family domestically. H's working so much and it has just gotten too chaotic. I want my kids to remember a orderly nurturing home (not that I am going to start baking or anything). Since kids are girls, I also want them to see their mom make these changes and take this opportunity. Sounds healthy enough, anyway.<P>Then as I am uncharacteristically pitching these perfectly good expensive pumps and having a great time doing it, it hits me.<P>THIS MAY BE MY MID-LIFE CRISIS...ya think?<P>I'd only wish my H celebrated his by throwing out his shoes <P>

Mid-Life is a time when many of us refelect what we did in the past or failed to do.<BR>If you feel better about throwing out those shoes, and it doesn't hurt anyone else. Go for it!!! <P>On the other had if you throw out the shoes and decide to throw out kids and hubby too, then your ML is in crisis. MLC......<P>That is what many do not realize, evaluating your life is ok, drastic changes that hurt those around you is not ok and many THEN need help. <BR>Wish my H would seek help for his MLC before it became so distructive.<P>Enjoy throwing out those shoes, or better yet donate them to a women's shelter or somewhere they can be used....<BR>Good Luck

I am the queen of donating to the Goodwill or some good cause. Actually if you long form, you come out better financially than if you have a garage sale.<P>I promise absolutely that I will not be destructive in my MLC...if that is what it is.<P>Actually, except for my H's affair, I have been happy with my life since I was a teen. I really don't "get" people being concerned about their age.<P>I like 20's better than the teens, 30's much better than the twenties (wild college times excluded, of course which will always be treasured) and except for 1/2 of my 39th year and the first part of 40 I am expecting to like my 40's best yet!