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#881507 08/16/00 02:35 AM
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Help, I am really confuse dand stuck rigth now. H says (in private) that he wants to get counseling and commit to me. That he wants to raise our baby and will commit whether ior not I'm pregnant. ( [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR>Then he says (in public) that I'm psycho. Well, not in public buit in front of certain friends. Who know ow. He talked to ow on the phone away from where I could hear last night, tonight he is supposedly at his male friends house pklaying music, but he won't answer his cel phone when I called to ask him to pick up dog food...he ahs a history of lying about where he's at and who he's with. Pathological almost. I don't trust him right now and he refuses to stop talking to ow.<BR>ack!

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Ani, the lying and deceit are a part of the affair. I think it is a good sign that he says he is going to stay with you and your child.<P>For many of us BS, our WS simply left and said they wouldn't try!<P>Keep taking care of yourself and doing plan A

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I remember a betrayer (can't remember who) once posted about this. Said he went thru a period when he was so "foggy" that he really believed what he told his wife when he was with her--that he loved her and couldn't leave. Then he'd be around the OW and her friends, and think "I can't walk away from her" and tell a different story.<P>I think the confusion speaks to how torn he is. It is good that he tells you he wants to be with you...you just need to keep up the Plan A stuff...<P>Hang in there--<P>Kathi

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ani: <P>You've gotten some good words of advice here. I can't really add any.<P>I was just wondering how you were doing. I hope you're okay.<P>All the best. --HBC

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ani:<P>My thoughts are with you. It is very hard to deal all of this. Be good to yourself, please. <P>Take care,<P>Judy


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