I just don't get it. My H jumps off the fence onto OP's side. I guess she had been pressuring him.<P>Now I hear from OP's H, that my H is pressuring her. He tells me they are on the phone all night long trying to work out their issues. They seem to want "us" (her H and me) to stay here to take care of the kids. She wants to be "friends" with him.<P>She is always telling her H every detail. Discussing how she and my H have been in a constant argument for 4 months. She is mad that he won't go public. She is worried because she doesn't want to face me. Her dad is disappointed but still loves her (as he should)....<P>I told OP's H he is being her sounding board. He is about ready to have a nervous breakdown. He keeps thinking he can fix it.<P>Meanwhile she still goes over to the house and he fixes dinner and she kisses him in front of the kids. If he says anything to the kids she says he is putting them in the middle. He wants to do the Christian thing and stand by his wife and family and not lie and try to take care of everything. <P>I keep telling him he is getting sucked into it. He can't plan A without LB.. I cannot get that throught to him.<P>So I don't get it. They are constantly fighting and dealing with this thing..... When does reality set in???????<P>Maybe this just is there reality and we need to get out of it!!!!

You know, some people just need drama in their lives. Maybe it's a simple as that? I don't know why anyone would want to live like that.