I know you're in an awful spot right now and I'm so sorry for it so I'll get straight to it...<P>You (born 1-14-73) are a Capricorn/(Water)Rat<BR>Your H (born 6-21-73) is a Gemini/(Water)Ox<P>OW (3-17-?76) is a Pisces/(Fire)Dragon<P>Ox with Dragon: Plenty of late-night squabbles in this combo. Both believe they are righter than right. The Dragon dictates her will over the opinionated Ox and the Bull bullies back. <P>The Ox has little patience with vanity. The Ox's indifference to the Dragon's fiery appearance is a perpetual disappointment to the Dragon's ego. The glamorous, extravagant Dragon loves to spend money but, withthe Ox counting pennies, feels hampered and ill-at-ease. <P>The Dragon's wandering eye unsettles the faithful (?!)Ox. <P>With so much conflict, how can this duo reconcile? Their love of home and family could save them from total despair. Both enjoy sex, altho the Ox's routine techniques may bore the Dragon, whose sentimental nature yearns for puff clouds of pink cotton candy to enhance lovemaking.<P>Also, the methodical Ox expects a regular living schedule. The Dragon, however, favors a more erratic time code, exorbitant stormy sex for a week followed by peace and quiet for three. An excellent business partnership, this union is not recommended for either marriage or romance unless the Dragon can be free to roam and hunt excitement elsewhere.<P>Yes!! Altho it would be very tempting to email this to them--don't! Major LB, hurtingirl! Ooh, I really hope this birthdate is correct!!<P>Rat with Ox: Union between these guarantees matrimonial stability. The Ox provides the rambunctious Rat with the grounding she lacks and the Rat peeks thru the Ox's wall of convention and resistance to change, pepping up an otherwise dreary existence. This combination fits, each rounding out the other's sharper edges.<P>The Ox's steadfastness provides the Rat with much-nneded security and the devoted Ox will be happy to take on the role of provider and family protector. The gregarious Rat Will accept every invitation, always happpy to spend the Ox's hard-earned money. All the better for the quiet Ox who, without the Rat's exuberant nature, would simply stay at home runinating. Each is happy to fulfill their role. Alluring and meticulous, a Rat is a perfect helpmate for an Ox in business, doing backflips and handstands to encourage the Ox's career.<P>The Ox demands complete fidelity. Despite a desire to dash out on the town, the Rat will appear faithful but how she spends her spare time is nobody's business. (NOT! I'm sure!)<P>What about passion? Neither Rat nor the Ox is preoccupied with the fanciful notion of tearing-up-the-bedsheets lovemaking. Their sex life will be routine. They are not bored by this, however: the Chinese claim that they prefer it. <P>My source books go further in saying if you love an Ox man, never corner him, never ask him "Do you love me?" kinds of questions--it makes them tongue-tied and harrassed. (i.e. don't back your bull into a corner and wave a red cape!) <P>An Ox man may be a constant companion but physically unfaithful! He loves profoundly and supports and sticks firmly by his family commitments and will always be there when his family needs him. But the Ox man does not consider sexual love to be in the same league as married love and devotion. To him, love and sex are separate. <P> He is sensual and loves the good life. He is addicted to comfort, fine food and wine and is fairly easy to please so long as these needs are seen to.(E.N.'s? Plan A?) <P>The sex act is so far removed from what he thinks of as love that the Ox male is capable of having sex with almost anyone, but he can only love very few people. The Ox male's emotions are intricately connected to his unyielding heart. His public image has little or nothing to do with his inner feelings and his secret self is unavailable for veiwing by even his most intimate friends or lovers unless they're very lucky. The Ox man is not the type to freak out if his wife cheats on him sexually, but if she falls in love with someone else, leaves him and/or deserts the kids, the Ox can become dangerously depressed. Remember, he cannot show tenderness without feeling embarrassed. He keeps emotion in, turns it around a hundred ways in his head, but never seeks outside aid or even consults with friends. Eventually somethingt gives, and it is very often his nerves. As he disdains nervous/psychosomatic illnesses, if he starts to crack up, he begins not to like himself. Then, he can be horribly cranky and if pushed or constrained by people or surroundings, may become dowright nasty.<BR>(All hail plan B!!)<P>It's rare that a Water Ox backs off from an opinion. He is stubborn and intransigent, believing firmly that he possesses the only truth. He never openly questions his methods or asks, "Am I doing the right thing?" But he is secretly sentimental and can be swayed when his feelings are appealed to. The Water Ox finds affection irresistible and may astonish you by suddenly opening his ears and his heart to your desires.<P>Finally, Water confers a hefty dose of vengefulness on the Ox. A person who betrays or wrongs a Water Ox will rue the day. He will remember every detail of pain that was ever inflicted on him. Water Oxen wait, think, ruminate, connive, plot and KILL. Stay downwind of their rancor. (Let's hope OW pisses him off royally!)<P>Oooowwweee! You've got a tough man to be married to! I give you truckloads of credit,<BR>hg! Looks like you're in for the ride of your life. <P>Dragon-lady is a fiery opponent but if you do your part, she will be her own worst enemy. Just work on your H with Plan A/Plan B and the principles and she will feel so insecure, she'll LB herself right out of existence. Whatever you do, do not appear clingy and desperate--she will only see you as pitiful and weak and that will only give her strength and make her happy--from what I read on Fire dragon women. And I don't think it will do a thing for your H either. <P>Dragon women dominate. Your H is being dominated by her, his opinions swayed, his vision clouded by her. It's only a matter of time till they lock horns and he digs in his heels. <P>I've been reading your posts. Lotsva would have sent OW flowers after her surgery! Show your strength, Hon. Love and Prayers to you!<P>Aloha,<P>Leilana
