Hi all,<P>I've been posting mostly in EN forum, but now i think i need to post this here.<P>Just to have a picture of my situation:<BR>On september i'll be married for 3 years and have a 1 yo son. About a year and a half my H give me the "i'm not in love with you anymore" talk, although he says that he loves me and always will. I felt devastated and ask him if there was someone else, he said no and still sustain that. I began Plan A since 9 months ago, about a month ago my H give me again the "i am not happy b/c i feel empty w/o the in love feeling" talk. After that i was near to give up, but friends in this forum gave me the strenght to continue. <BR>Since then H has changed, he is more affectionate with me (some hugs and kisses in months). I feel peace in my actual situation but i am sure that i am the half of the way, i need to be more intimate with H and right now i am feeling that we are something like stuck in this comfortable situation.<BR>Is this normal on Plan A? What can i do to go further? I also want the "in love feeling back" b/c as once LOSTVA said to me: after so much withdrawal from my H i discovered that i also lost the "in love feeling". <P>I am also praying that this calm is not the prelude of a thoughest storm!!! but the prelude of our full recovery.<P>What do you think?? Please, i need some advice

Can you jump start it with a night (or longer) away without the little one? And bring out the sexy arsenal....<P>Kreidman has some great books:<BR>LIGHT HIS FIRE<BR>LIGHT HER FIRE<BR>THE TEN SECOND KISS<P>Are you spending the Harley recommended 15 hours a week together? Spending recreational time together--which also gives you topics of conversation.<P>There are also Forums here for romantic ideas.<P>In-love & romance can rekindle. <P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."<BR>(Proverbs 15:1).

Not sure if this is what you mean, but. My W had given me the "I love you but am not in love with you." many times. It was one of the things that made me suspect an A. We had a crisis a little over a week ago and one of the things she told me was "I hate you for making me fall back in love with you" I think that was Plan A working. Once the crisis was resolved things took a quantum leap forward. I hope it sticks.

Hi, Hon. Sorry it took so long to get here.<P>Good for you, recognizing a rut and ready to do something about it.<P>Lor recommended some great books...I have them too! (Great minds, huh, Lor). Hey, did you ever get "Relationship Rescue"? Still a good book to work through, even in a "peaceful" marriage. Still a lot to learn.<BR>Good suggestions for making things great.<P>Look, you're heading in the right direction..you have been for a while. It takes time, time and more time. You've got an advantage, you are AWARE! That's most of the battle, you know. <P>Keep up with Plan A, keep reading and learning.<P>Now, did you need something MORE specific or different? Once I started typing I wasn't sure, so if I misread things, just jump right on in and holler at me and I'll go back to thinking! <P>Love and prayers,<P>Lori

trapito...<P>Lor and Lori got the right idea...<P><B>Passion:</B><BR><OL TYPE=1><BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0785273662" TARGET=_blank><B>A Celebration of Sex</B></A> by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0440207533" TARGET=_blank><B>Light His Fire </B>: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love</A> by Ellen Kreidman <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0805058265" TARGET=_blank><B>Passionate Marriage :</B> Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships</A> by David Schnarch <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0800757092" TARGET=_blank><B>Sex Begins in the Kitchen :</B> Because Love Is an All-Day Affair</A> by Kevin Leman <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0310214149" TARGET=_blank><B>What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men</B></A> by Patrick M. Morley <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0842378960" TARGET=_blank><B>What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women</B></A> by James C. Dobson <BR></OL><P> <P>Jim