About 6 Months ago my wife and I have met anouther man and we became friends, ever since we met hime our marriage has fallen apart, my wife says that I have hurt her over the past few years and she fell out of love with me. She started not coming home on friday nights, she says she is spending the night over he girlfriends house. She calls this other guy all the time and he calls her alot.<BR>She says that they are just close friends and there is nothing going on. I never caught her doing anything with him or have any proof, she say that this is all in my head.<P>My wife and I have not had sex for about 2 months I feel very distant from her, latly she started to say I love you but it is hard for me to get close to her she is hot and cold she told me that she needed more time.<P>Is she in love with both of us or maybe thre is nothing going on I am very confused I dont know what to think HELP<BR><p>[This message has been edited by CONFUSED29 (edited September 01, 2000).]

In a word......yes, very likely.

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I have to ask you what were you thinking?<BR>Why would you accept your wife going over to her male friend on friday evenings and not coming home? How can you think that they were not physical? This is totally unacceptable behavior for a married person period. She shows all the signs of being in a physical affair. If she spends the whole night with her male friend then it is time for plan B.<BR>You cannot allow this to continue!