Hi TT,<P> Worrying about you and hoping you are ok....well, as well as you can possibly be at this trying time.....thinking of you...LU

Thanks Lu, I am doing remarkably well. I am glad I started this very difficult course on Tuesday. It really keeps me busy during the day. I have to focus on it. Read and reread the material... so there are finally moments that I am NOT thinking about the "situation"<P>H came and took son out tonight. They had a great time. He is going to take D and a friend to a dance tomorrow night. It's really great because this was not his weekend. But he told me that seeing the kids is about all he can do right now.<P>I'm obliging. It's good for them and good for him. He is much different towards them recently. He even peeked in at little one (like his normal) who was asleep. I'm pretty sure he gave her a kiss. He was so self-absorbed prior to this he wouldn't think of those things.<P>I'm not gonna push. I'm gonna wait. I'll just have patience. It seems to be something I am getting better at!<P>thanks for asking. I know there is much more to come. I hear OP is complaining about me. Saying that I'm telling everyone. Gee...she's showing. What do I have to tell??? <P>It's so annoying. I don't even go out of the house half the time. I don't do any of the things I used to do so I don't run into anyone. My close friends know the subject of the whole thing is off limits with me and they respect that.<P>Plus, what benefit would it be for me to blab. I want to protect my kids. This is a small town. I mean really!<P>I'm so sick of having to defend myself from what she says. I say that, but I stopped a long time ago. She can think what she wants to think. I know what I am doing. <P>So much for my rant. I've been keeping that in all day. Thanks for thinking of me.

Hi TT,<P>I didn't respond to your other thread when you found out about OC, but I wanted you to know that I am thinking about you too.<P>Isn't it great to have something outside of the house to do? I started a new job a few weeks ago, and the time spent worrying about all of this is very reduced. I feel like my brain is being put to use instead of running the same problems through it endlessly.<P>TT, I think OW is doing a helluva lot of lovebusting right now. You are the smarter, better woman and you and your H and OW all know it. The fact that she is spreading rumors about you says a lot, and I'd bet my last dollar that your H spends a lot of time with OW defending you!<P>So, pregnant or not (silly fool that she is) let her love bust away! Sounds like she is good at it. You are his safe haven. Compared to her it sounds like your life is pretty well together. She dumped her kids, her H and got pregnant. What a mess she created for herself. I'd bet your H is starting to recoginze what a mess he's made too. <P>You sound good TT...you are now dealing with the truth and I agree with whoever said that you are in the stage of acceptance. Feels good to let others be the crazy-out of control ones, while you serenely keep it together...for you and your precious kids.<P>Keep up the good work TT! I'm feeling so proud of all you are accomplishing during a terrible time of your life.<P>allison<BR>

Hi TT,<P> I'm so glad you are doing ok.....you've been on my mind and I am truly amazed at your composure and strength... As AzAllison said, sit back and let the OW LB away...the truth always comes out and you are a remarkable ideal of grace under fire...<BR> I'll keep praying for you and your little ones...I'm so glad you have something else to occupy your mind....LU